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She-Ra ( member #36033) posted at 5:54 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2012
As a WW speaking, I would run from this 4 month relationship. You go overseas for 2 weeks and he gets into bed with his exGF?
You are young. Find a better man, one that doesn't leap into bed with another woman the moment you aren't looking. Its great that he confessed but that doesn't mean he wouldn't do it again down the road. Once you cross that boundary, it's easier to do it again.
I hope my advice as someone who cheated on her husband will resonate with you. I'm going to a lot of IC to work through my issues. It's not pretty and bless my husbands heart for sticking by me. If we had not been married with years of history under our belt, he would have left.
Good luck newbie.
Former story began here July 2012
We were mad-hatters. I was a WW first then a BS. Separated May 2017. 2 kids.
Met my new beginning May 2019 just discovered his EA Oct 2020 4 days after we bought a house
disasterpiece ( new member #15545) posted at 6:29 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2012
23 is so young, You're both maturing. Personally, cheating aside, I think it's good advice to not even think about dating until you're 25. Leave him.
sudra ( member #30143) posted at 7:29 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2012
while I was overseas he slept with the girl he had been 'seeing' before me. He said it was purely out of his 'head space'
There will always be things going on that can be used to justify an affair, if that's what he wants. Do you want to be with someone who might cheat everytime he gets anxious or the waters aren't calm?
Moreover, he does have a history. He overlapped you with his prior girlfriend. H
He has no boundaries. Be greatful you have found this out now, before you've been married for 15 years and have three kids.
Run away, now.
Me (BW) (5\64), Him(SAWH) (68)Married 31 years, 1 son (28), 1 stepdaughter (36) DDay #1 January 2004DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)Working on R
whydothistome ( member #35959) posted at 10:41 PM on Monday, September 10th, 2012
I agree with the wise advice you've been given. I wasn't married to my xWSO when I was betrayed either. We had been committed 2.5 years. Already had our future planned. It hurts like hell, but I know after being married before that I don't want to start a marriage with trust issues. You can't love him enough to make him faithful & it'll drive you insane. Let him go. You shouldn't have to start out fighting to make a relationship work. The beginning is supposed to be the easy part before life steps in. Don't rob yourself of that.
I say my hell is the closet I'm stuck inside, can't see the light.
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