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reallyscrewedup7 ( member #30825) posted at 2:52 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2012
Finally. Sorry to say that, but I have wondered how you could have held on that long.
Anger is an amazing force if you focus it. Use it as a motivator to heal yourself and wage a helluva divorce war.
remember, divorce is WAR. Gladiator soundtrack x1000. Good luck man. And use that anger to help you and your littles.
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 4:15 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2012
Yep -- out of the fog. It's not a bad thing when the anger finally hits. There can be strength found in it.
Regardless of what happens, you'll need all the strength you can get.
Take care of yourself Kchip.
Neithan ( member #35924) posted at 4:47 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2012
Good for you, Kchip. You're making a healthy decision and taking correct action. No more psycho hosebeast!
Me: BH
Her: WW
D-Day: 2/19/2010
Married 1981
That which does not kill me makes me more irritable
lm2024 ( member #34759) posted at 5:22 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2012
Channel your anger into resolve. Your WW is a SAHM, which is why she had plenty of time for her affairs. You should be moving back and re-taking your home. SHE sleeps on the couch.
circe ( member #6687) posted at 5:39 PM on Saturday, September 15th, 2012
Good to see your power, man. We are all behind your road to happiness, whichever road you take to get there!
Everything I ever let go of has claw marks on it -- Infinite Jest
Twitchy ( member #25393) posted at 2:42 PM on Sunday, September 16th, 2012
The anger is a great motivator and alows you to see thing with a new, clearer lense.
But don't let the anger get away from you or stoke up into a fury. You can make some really big, tragic mistake in a rage fueled minute. Just ask half the prison population.
Bank the anger and let it carry through the tough decisions you now have the mindset to consider. But keep you head.
We're here for you.
BH(me)-57, FWW-Past,D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous. D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.
Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.If you plan to face tomorrow, do it soon. Gordon Li
wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 2:57 PM on Sunday, September 16th, 2012
Good for you, I remember that defining moment.
A word of caution, go see a lawyer and make sure that if you have your own fling that it doesn't affect the D outcome. In my state even if we are in D proceedings if I go out now and have sex with someone, it then cancels out their A. Plus you are not emotionally ready and its not fair to that person. Be able to look your kids in the eye and say that you remainded faithful. Integrity above revenge.
Sign up for divorce care for you and your kids. Wonderful resources even their emails have a wealth of info designed to help you.
Be smart because she is not. Time to start preparing for the worst. Ducks in a row, smart moves, it is all business right now and you need to see a lawyer so no mistakes are made by you where you lose your company or kids.
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