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After DDAY for his birthday my FWH had his very first tattoo on his pec - of my nickname.

As a present to him I ALSO had it put on my foot.

FWH did want me to have his name tattoo'd on my body too but I have to say that there is a teeny tiny part of me that would never have another persons name tattoo'd on me for fear of.... well, you know why.

Just look at Cheryl Cole who now has to live with the fact she has a huge tattoo on the back of her neck that says Mrs C!!

But- my FWH did it to prove to me that he was THAT dedicated to 'forever with me' now as he isn't a tattoo kind of person so for him to do this was a MASSIVE statement that still makes me realise just how far we've come.

[This message edited by MrsDoubtfire at 11:04 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)]

I do believe that asking him to do that will cheapen the effect.

I do too.

This is just an idea. A good one, but not the only idea out there. I don't need a symbol, I just think it would be nice to have. He's currently doing the right things and I'm happy (most of the time..we all know the R Ride is tough).

What got me thinking about this was the Christmas Gift threads. Especially for the people whos DDay is on Christmas. If my DDay was on Christmas I would appreciate this kind of a gift. Or any DDay Anniversary. It would turn the tide for me I think.

[This message edited by NorthernGirl888 at 11:10 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)]

I love the idea. But I agree with those that have said the ring is a symbol already.

My husband told me he did not take off his wedding band on his ONS. Its almost incomprehensible to me.

So...now I think, "A tatoo would be great - you can't take take it off." But I remember he didn't take the ring off. He didn't mind - and she certainly didn't.

ugh ... triggers!

In the early days of our R I use to insist that my FWH tattoo my name on his penis. I was pretty serious at the time. He doesn't have any tattoos and doesn't ever want any. He finally said that he would get a tattoo with my name but not on his penis. Naw...I'm not interested. It's the penis or nowhere.

My H got a tattoo designed by me. He wanted something that would mean both of us intertwined. So I designed a Scorpion and the tail is a bow&arrow. He is a Scorpio and I'm a Sagittarius. He also put a huge heart made of thorns around it. For him the thorns represent any pain he's willing to go through for us in R.

He never had any tatts but during R it's something he wanted to do.

I have a small scorpion on my lower back that says Te Amo/ means I LOVE YOU

My H got a tattoo designed by me. He wanted something that would mean both of us intertwined. So I designed a Scorpion and the tail is a bow&arrow. He is a Scorpio and I'm a Sagittarius. He also put a huge heart made of thorns around it. For him the thorns represent any pain he's willing to go through for us in R.

He never had any tatts but during R it's something he wanted to do.

I have a small scorpion on my lower back that says Te Amo/ means I LOVE YOU

FWH and I got a tattoo of each other's names about 9 months after R.

It was a really big bonding experience for us, and even on my down days I'm really happy to have it.

My husband would never do this. He hates tattoos. But a nice tattoo with my name in it on his shoulder blade, that would be so sexy. That he would do something like that for me would be amazing.

My H has always told me he would NEVER tattoo a woman's name on his body. Now after the A, he has told me he wants to get a tattoo with my name on the left side of his chest.

I am very happy he wants to do this. It's helped me to feel special again and has shown me he plans to be committed for life.

I know marriage should have told me the same thing and at the time it did but after the A I felt our vows were worthless.

I told him I wanted to get his name too as I have wanted to for years.

My H is excited about us getting matching his/hers tattoos too now. He suggested we wait until our 16th wedding anniversary. He also wants to make the day special by exchanging new, self written vows.

I am looking forward to our sweet 16 so much!

Our last anniversary was horrible because I hadn't had confirmation of his PA although I knew in my heart it had happened. It ate away at me for a few days and then I rang the OW and she confirmed it. I was affraid of our next anniversary until these new plans where made. I hope my joy wins over the sadness when the time comes.

In the early days of our R I use to insist that my FWH tattoo my name on his penis. I was pretty serious at the time. He doesn't have any tattoos and doesn't ever want any. He finally said that he would get a tattoo with my name but not on his penis. Naw...I'm not interested. It's the penis or nowhere.

Now there's an idea I had NOT thought of!

Sorry, don't know how to highlight.

"In the early days of our R I use to insist that my FWH tattoo my name on his penis. I was pretty serious at the time. He doesn't have any tattoos and doesn't ever want any. He finally said that he would get a tattoo with my name but not on his penis. Naw...I'm not interested. It's the penis or nowhere."

I told my H I wanted him to tattoo a lock on his and I would get a key.

I would LOVE FWS to come to me and say he wanted a tattoo signifying his commitment to us.

He already has one of our DS's footprints (who died as a baby) so he's OK with tattoos per se. However he's always laughed at his 2nd wife's chinese writing tattoo of his name and how she'll be forever etched with his name.

Pre A he always said he'd never tattoo a woman's name or commitment symbol - that he shouldn't have to demonstrate his love and devotion in that way - his words and actions should be enough. In the light of the A, I think he didn't want a tattoo because he was never 100% committed and never will be - to me or anyone else.

But, yes, it would mean a hell of a lot to me - it would be "an action" instead of the empty words I keep getting, but it aint gonna happen!!