Just wanted to step in and say I'm sorry.
And to offer that it took some time, but what I know now is that I can only control what is under my own roof. In some ways, this helps ...more than anything else. Sadly, and it is not being a bad parent, there is nothing I can do when my kids are with x and Ow-and Ds is only 1. What I am told by lawyers and judge here is that so long is there is not proven violence, I can do nothing but hope that DS remembers to send a hi text sometime during their absence.
In my state, or at least the lawyers we had, put language in the papers that neither parent is allowed to just up and move either child out of state-at first this royally ticked me off but now I am just glad that it means the same for that guy (x).
At the beginning, it is so shocking and strange to think of other people with our kids. But the sad truth is, the more we the BS try to even interact, in some cases, the more we are seen as simply interferring. So I just wanted to say, be careful. Because the harsh truth is, eta the WS is still a parent and still has their own rights. And sometimes, just to mess up the BS, they take full and complete advantage of that.
One of my friends is a boy who's father left his mother in the same way that we had happen here. This little boy has more compassion in one finger than I could ever imagine in a child.
Anyway...he told me the most amazing thing when Perv first left and I will never forget the words of 3 years ago: "the parent who gets left behind is still the parent. Never the new person. Ever."
These words broke my heart all over again but also made me smile at the same time and I hope they will help.
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 5:11 PM, November 28th (Friday)]