Wow, am I the only one who thinks being grumpy upon being woken up does not equate to being a jerk?
Yeah, I don't think I am going to throw this one away just because he is a bit grumpy when he answers the phone upon being awakened. He wasn't nasty or angry at me on the phone. He just was a bit grumpy when he answered it, until he was mostly awake. And he was still patient and tolerant about talking...he just wasn't all there and totally wanting to talk. Honestly, when I am awakened in the middle of the night by a phone call....doesn't happen often but thinking on it....I'm not usually very cheerful.
He felt BAD about not being very cheerful and asked me to just remind him. I am okay with that. I could possibly ask him to do the same if he ever calls me in the middle of the night and I answer it less than pleasantly.
He is either there for you or he is not. You should not have to beg him to be nice and be available.
I agree I should not have to beg him to be nice, but I'm not going to beg him to be nice. If I catch him while he is sleeping again, I am just going to say "Hey honey, I know you are half asleep but I want to talk with you a bit. Can you call me back after you are fully awake?" I don't think that is a problem. We all have our "less than perfect times." He is working hard on being what I need and being here for me. No one is going to be here 100% for me. That would be impossible. He is here for me about 90% of the time. He WANTS to be here 100% of the time. That is why he told me that during his weaker moments, to please talk to him a bit and pull him out of it....
I don't expect 100% perfection from him, and I don't expect him to be the perfectly mature person. I'm not. I still have some self-growth to do. I'm happy with everything else, and I'm okay with this now that we've talked it thru.
Thanks for your opinions and thoughts....I do appreciate them!
[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 7:24 AM, March 20th (Wednesday)]
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
