Throwing a humongous temper tantrum because your children are calling another man *dad* would be a hill that I would be willing to die on all day long.
What's funny about this is last time I went home, I was talking to my oldest, and he made it clear to me that he knew that I was his daddy, and that the OM was just this guy. He didn't hate him, but he would tell me that he liked him either. What's relieving to me is to know that no matter what, I know that my children love me and I love them. I will not do anything to threaten that.
The amount of texts should have been your first clue.
I checked the number, and it was a canceled, or otherwise discontinued, number. Could it have been that after I asked her about them when it happened, she had OM change number? Maybe. Either way, I cannot confirm that it was his number. But I still remain suspicious as you do.
If this plays out like most of them do the OM most likely will crawl back home begging and pleading his BS not to D him.
Apparently, not so here. They are divorcing and he's moved out to another apartment and they're just hashing out terms, apparently. But as you said, I don't really know. At the end of the day, I don't really care what is going on there. The fact is OM broke up an otherwise happy home, and that is all that matters.
Dont allow them to destroy you. Trust me this happens a lot. Please remember that you did nothing to percipatate this. This one is all on her.
I agree 100% on this. I may have made mistakes, but I am not to blame for what she and OM alone are doing. She has tried to blame me, but I keep telling myself, "have duck feathers" and state the truth.