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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 9:36 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
WXW "Why are you saying that DD?"
Turns out she has been fishing with DD asking her about how she would feel if she got a house with OM.
The fucking nerve - make your DD feel bad for speaking the truth. THIS is what your DD will remember. Dad is honest, loving, present and cares about my wellbeing. Mum is deceitful and tries to make me lie.
While I'm at it, I endlessly depressed with WXW buying DD (who is SIX!) boob tubes, cropped tops and make up. FFS!
Girl, hold my earrings. I so have this shit in my future. monster has already dressed my 2.5 year old in leopard print pants. WTF? His GF is only 24 and is dressing my girls like the dollies she was dressing not so long ago. Yuck.
You know you can't reason with crazy. It will just give her a blueprint of which buttons to press. Focus on your kids - they are not a lost cause.
((velveteer))
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:21 PM, April 11th (Thursday)]
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
velveteer (original poster member #30997) posted at 8:52 AM on Friday, April 12th, 2013
Great support here - thanks all. I particularly appreciate the different perspectives - this really helps as I know that I do need to keep what emotions I might have about WXW/OM out of the picture here and focus on the kids. I think I am but always good to examine that.
In a way I actually think WXW is trying much harder these days. During the A and its aftermath she was a total disaster area as a mother. She is better now, but just doesn't think before she speaks. She also has a history of this kind of stuff.
Anyways - thanks again and SisterMilkshake - always good to see you. You have been with me since the start and know the long story here - I really appreciate your support.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 12:41 PM on Friday, April 12th, 2013
Always good to see you, too, my kilt wearing friend. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
velveteer (original poster member #30997) posted at 2:49 PM on Friday, April 12th, 2013
@SisterMilkshake
Seems actually that I may get a chance to say something. WXW wants to talk to me about all this - about how "things might move forward".
Clearly she is thinking of moving in with OM. Now I'm obviously not overjoyed about this since I have zero respect for OM. However, I equally have no desire for any R with WXW and who she dates etc is of no interest to me. And, the kids get on OK with OM so this is better than many alternatives, even if I think he's a dick.
But, I think she needs to do this right. Her chat this week has created uncertainty for the kids and she must not do that. Instead I think she should work through her own decisions about this and then talk to them when she knows what it is that will happen rather than giving them such uncertainty.
I guess I'm worried about this because I know the kids don't want this, but it will happen anyway, so I want it handled as well as it can. I can do my bit and will, but WXW needs to be more sensitive.
What do you think?
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