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So she's wearing his balls now...too bad when the court kicks him in the jingle berries, he's going to feel the pain instead of her.

I assume other than what he took with him, you were awarded the contents of the home. If so, he has no recourse. None.

Does he think his children don't need to eat or have a roof over their heads when they are on vacation? Idiot.

Cat

Yes, Cat. He was given an opportunity to walk through the house, list what he wanted, and those lists became part of the SA.

He is such a conniving, manipulative BULLY. And I HATE that my girls are around his brand of crazy.

Fuck.That.Guy.

What the fuck??? Like you are going to send over all your medication dosages/prescriptions...

What the hell is wrong with this guy? Fuck him.

I'm sure your lawyer will enjoy asking the court that he pay her fees seeing as he is such a fucking idiot.

(((NMK)))

Fucking bucket full of crazy... Hugs to you sweetie, he's just angry and lashing out because he needs to step up to the plate. It's difficult for him to act like a grown up Keep doing what you're doing and don't let him intimidate you. He had a lifetime of that crap, NO MORE.

OMG! What a complete Moron! Hugs, nutmegkitty. You've already gotten spectacular advice, just keep on saving those insane texts and truck on.

((((nutmegkitty)))))

First, it is good to see you on the board! It is probably my absence and not yours, but I was delighted to see you on the board....

But OMG I want to come and kick your stbx in the "no-no's" as one of my middle schoolers coined it today. What a fucking fucking fuck indeed.

I felt the anxiety start just reading your description of his texts. Can you forward them to someone who can filter for you? Or does he have the kids right now? If he doesn't have the kids then NOTHING he has to say is important right now. Block him even if just temporarily and get some peace?

On the PTSD and how to get relief, I like the JAMF scream fest as recommended. I tried a hot shower once during a PTSD attack and it was a terrible mistake for me. The shower was too much stimulation and I completely fell apart and horrified at the idea of needing assistance while wet and naked, a puddle of anxiety in the bathroom floor... Did not induce relaxation and release of tension at that point!!

He's throwing a NPD tantrum and bully is the exact right term.

FTG for sure.

(((more hugs)))

He has no recourse, then, on the appliances. None. Unless there is fraud involved, the marital settlement stands. Boo-fucking-hoo he got teary-eyed at the washer living somewhere else.

Unless he gets a subpoena, you give him no information. None. He can ask all he wants, but unless you receive a subpoena, you do not have to voluntarily answer a thing.

It does get better, but I fully relate to the panic at hearing from the NPD and the bullying. I hate it.

Cat

I fully relate to the panic at hearing from the NPD and the bullying. I hate it.

Me too.

I'm sorry.

And what a dick-wad! Fuck him! Don't respond.

*sniffs* yep, smells like NPD alright. You can NOT feed the monster with ANY reaction. That is the only way to deal with the NPD. THE ONLY WAY! move through your attorney and he gets crickets. Additionally, might want to talk to your attorney about having his wages garnished so you don't have to deal with him withholding cs due to his history. My stbx douche NEVER paid on time and even skipped a month. Yeah, pretty much F.T. G. You got this. He will not know how he makes you tremble right now ..you will not share that. You must stand up and continue to fight his monster until he knows your strength and perseverance!

((((NMK))))))

Yea. I'm amending my previous statement...which was too nice.

He's not just *nasty*...the guy is a JAMF.

He's not paying CS because the kids are on school break? WTF? That is completely and utterly irrational. Kids break, home all day = *higher* expenses, right? Cause you're feeding those little *bottomless* pits all day long instead of just outside of school hours.

He wants a list of your meds? Is he smoking crack?

Hand this fucking moron off to your L. He'll hang himself with that short amount of rope. It would almost be worth it to pay L fees to go to court and let him plead his case to a judge. The thought of that makes me laugh.

I know you have kids, so this might be difficult to do [I have kids too, and it would be hard for me too~especially if there were an emergency], but have you considered changing your number so he can't text or call you? Have ALL contact via attourneys. Set up children pick up and drop off via attourneys. He seems to be still in control of you, and you are letting him.

If there is an emergency, they can call your lawyer, who can call you and then you can deal with said emergency.

Just a suggestion. Considering such COA (course of action) myself.

Thank you all so much for having my back on this. You all *get* it, and that helps so much.

It is clear to me he is unravelling further. I will feel so much better when my babies are back with me (they are with him for this vacation week).

I am always antsy when my children are with XWH more than 1 day.

What has helped me is that I realize all the yelling and bitching and threatening he does is to keep the focus off what he has done.

I also realized that my children will be with my XH on 52 overnights out of the next 12 months (every other weekend 2 nights) and 2 weeks in the summer and they will be with his mom and sisters who are somewhat normal. So, I have them

the majority of their lives. I am working diligently to show them who I am -- who I used to be before I married their Dad.

It's getting easier, but sometimes he gets me rattled with his texts, too.

It's then that I look around and notice he's not in my living room, he's someone elses problem now, and I try to chill for my kids. (sometimes it takes a couple hours).

Go for it on the court thing. Standing up for yourself makes you feel even better and stronger.

Homewrecked, that is EXACTLY what I do too. I can now freely be me, nutmegkitty, around my girls. I am smart and have been told I'm pretty funny, but I used to dumb that down around the ex because I guess he felt threatened if is showed eiither quality. Well, no more. My girls see me killing spiders and shoveling out of a blizzard. That is what I model for them. I can only hope it's enough to compensate for the rainbow farting unicorn land that is their dads house.