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fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 12:16 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Finding it hard as well to miss anything. Hired a cleaning guy and crew, a yard guy and crew for the hard stuff and a handyman for all the little things that need to be fixed.
As my friend said: "you are paying, but now you are actually getting something in return."
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:04 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Maybe I miss having an adult male in the house for heavy lifting, but even then, we were pretty evenly matched. It's more that I sometimes need a second person to help (like when putting a window AC unit in). Fortunately, I have strong brothers who are willing to come out a couple times a year to help me if I feed them.
STBX couldn't do anything in terms of fixing or other house-related chores any better than I could. I can call the fix-it guys and drop the car at the shop as competently as he can! 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
lux444 ( member #30527) posted at 3:24 AM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
Cheat On A Good Woman and Karma Will Make Sure You End Up With The Bitch You Deserve!
npain ( member #33539) posted at 5:45 PM on Monday, April 29th, 2013
I miss having a husband.
Just not the husband I had.
S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:00 AM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
I miss having someone with whom I can share really great news, in detail.
Of course, I didn't have that for most of my marriage since he'd always put me down and minimize anything good compared to him, but that is one thing I look forward to in my next relationship.
Until then, I just journal.
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
iseetriple ( member #6556) posted at 3:48 AM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
..not so much a husband as just another set of hands...when I need to zip up the back of my dress. Nothing worse than when the kids are gone, I am in a rush and I can't get the zipper past my bra-line (damn, should have stuck with yoga!)
I end up having to run (half naked) across the street to my widowed neighbor and hope she is home to finish dressing me. 
Don't waste your whole life trying to get back what was taken away.
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 6:49 AM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
... every stupid day. I'll get over it, I suppose.
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:59 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
I'm thinking. 
If I'd had a good one, I'm sure I would have a different answer. 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
roughroadahead ( member #36060) posted at 6:08 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
I am in the box-lifting, jar-opening camp. I am in an apartment instead of a rental house purposely so I don't have to worry about lawns.
I also miss a husband (although not necessarily *my* husband) when DS6 loses his shit. He is over 4 feet tall and 50 lbs.
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 5:31 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
If mine had acted like a husband maybe I would have missed having one. I am told though, there are plenty of good men out there, so maybe I will be lucky enough to find a good man so I know what I was missing.
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