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When the affair started...he was 40 and she was 21

They worked together. He was her boss.

WH was 42,the two AP's were 39 and 23. The 3 girls he tried to start something with were all about 21-22. I was 38..had turned 38 2 days before dday#1.

Because WH was active on craigslist,I spent alot of time looking through the casual encounters section..looking for WH..but also looking to see just *what* he was looking at. Over the last 3 years,I've averaged about a once a week visit to CL, just checking and making sure I don't see my WH(so far,so good ). There are more men who advertise in that section,and the men are of all ages..from 18-80. But the average age of the girls who advertise on CL(at least in my area) is about 22-24 years old.

His current MOW is 42, Asshat is 53. MOW's husband is 20 years older than her, she is his 3rd wife.

I was 23 when he started cheating, i'm 28 now.

3 of the women he slept with were younger than me at the time he cheated

ETA when he started cheating he was 27

[This message edited by twodoves at 8:57 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]

when affair started OW was 23 in her last year of university, and WH was 42. I was 39. I believe young girls are easily manipulated by older men and believe the crap they are told.

Fucked up has no age limit.

That says it all.

I think it's more of a character thing than an age thing.

When I was in my 20's I was propositioned constantly by MM and I always said no. Of course, I was also M at the time, but even before that I would never mess around with anyone who was in a relationship. Wasn't even tempted, because I knew it was wrong.

The people who engage in A's are generally selfish and shallow. They don't think beyond how it makes them feel. They don't consider anyone else. Unfortunately it seems that there are more and more of those people in the world now. I think we have a strength of character problem, not an age problem.

OW was one yera younger than me. my Sisters WF is textinga 23 year old. Good Lord!

On D-Day, I was 28, WxSO was 37 and OW was 33.

The age of mow has bothered me a lot. Well everything about her and what they did bothers me. I do see that it was just opportunity on wh part. Sad but true. When wh had EA with mow he was 30 she was 43. I was 31. When wh began again and had PA with the same mow he was 32 she was 45. I was 33. Its about character, liars and cheaters in my opinion have none. Just as many "older" women seeking affairs as "younger" women. What they have in common? They are fucked up....

WSO's affair was on/off over a 4+ year span.

When the affair first began:

WSO: 55

MOW: 33

MOW gets separated: 34

WSO: 56

OW divorced: 35

WSO: 57

D-Day:

WSO: 59

OW: 37

I was 53 when the affair began, and approaching 58 when it ended.

Right after D-Day #1, WSO grappled with OW's age difference by 1 or 2 years- I knew regardless, we were talking about a 22 year age difference. WSO said that he talked with OW about their age difference as a concern. Now, I think he believes it was a way for him to discourage OW's plans of the affair becoming a real and public relationship.

The age difference was/is a concern AND the whole 4+ years should have been the biggest concern.

First OW was my best friend, we were all the same age... 30.

2nd OW was 2mos later, she was 22.

There was one I know of at least that was in her 40s.

Age didn't seem to matter to him, and as he dove further and further into his addiction, weight, hair color, beauty lost their value too. (All things that use to be VERY important to him.) He used to have "a type": thin, brunette, attractive..... all three of last years OW were blonde, 2 were overweight, all were disgusting looking.

At least it finally helped me come to terms with it wasn't me. The 22yr old really rocked my self esteem. She was very pretty, young, fit. His ex-W (another of the MOW) had a boob job (that he bought), so that was another hit to my self-esteem. Last year's OW left nothing to be envious of. Nothing. I finally realized I could've been a 20yr old Angelina Jolie, and he'd still have cheated.

FWH was 35. OW was 20.

She's now 26, a serial OW, with 2 OC to her name (different fathers).

All six of my WH's APs have been in their 20's. At one point he was too, but he just keeps getting older and the APs stay the same age.

I was 32, my wh was 36 and the OW was 40. Age had nothing to do with it.

In 1985 my FWW first AP was a 15 (fifteen) year old boy. She had a total of 5 that I know about. The oldest was 24.

She was 44 years old.

I was 50 years old

WH age when A started: 36

My age when affair started: 32

MOW age: 43.

Yup, not just older than me but 10 years older.

He needed that validation whereever he could get it, age be damned.

My exH was 33 and she was 24 (?). I am soon to be 29

WH is 38 and I am 37. His AP is 25 and engaged to be married in September. Messed up all around.

XH's main OW was 27, he & I were 39.

XH had affair w/my former friend, he was 37, she was 35, hideous and a lesbian.

All of the other ones, I have no clue. Suspicious that XH may have had A's w/former friends, just not sure. The only common denominator amongst all of them is that they are all mentally fucked.

Some are stupid, some are smart, but they are all incredibly needy and selfish, just like XH.