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I had a WH who, on Dday, took responsibility for what he did, the destruction he caused, and the hurt he inflicted. He endured a tremendous amount of anger and rage from me,much deserved I might add, but he was not angry. He responded with, "I deserve it"

He would not have lasted a day in my house as an angry WS. I would have packed his bags for him.

Sure, he was mad at himself for what he did but he had only himself to blame and he knew it.

You get what you allow...don't allow that behavior. He should be kissing your ass.

Yep. He's still so angry. When I ask why he's mad at me he says "I'm not mad at you!!! I'm mad at myself!!!" He says this in such a frightening tone that I just never believed him.

Thanks for this one. I might have been able to help him if I had known it was the truth. Oh well. I was told he wanted to do whatever he wanted to do and I could do nothing about it.

Well, half of that is true. He can do whatever he wants to do now. But there are things I can do too. Like divorce him.

I'm new here, but my WS is acting the exact same way.

I have never seen the venom and rage which he spews to me when he says I am being "unfair".

At the moment he's texting me. We decided amicably to divorce earlier today after soul searching on our marriage.

I figured he would go talk to the OW so I drove by her place and he happened to be pulling out at exactly that moment (women's intuition?) so I followed his car to the house and drove right past him. He's spent the past hour chasing me around town (drove past me parked in front of a strangers house lol!) and won't stop calling and texting me that he wants to tell me what he talked to her about. It's important for "us". Us? We just agreed to divorce. What US is there?

I told him I would talk to him tomorrow for 20 minutes.

He's still burning up my phone.

I think the anger is misplaced obviously...how is it not fair that I don't feel like talking? Not fair? Look in the mirror and see what's not fair.