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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 6:27 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Nice work, Jrazz. And I mean that in the broadest possible way, nice work.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
Faithful w/Love ( member #33128) posted at 6:35 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Jrazz,
I love the post, you have helped me in so many ways. Your words have lifted me when I was alone at night or feeling lonely in the day.
You are so correct!
BS(ME)41 WH(HIM)38
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 7:29 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Thank you for sharing, not only this post, but your on-going compassion.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 5:02 AM on Saturday, July 27th, 2013
Thanks to each of you too. Your support/friendship has always been uplifting. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 5:27 AM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Got a PM from a friend in WS who suggested I bump.
Hugs to everyone tonight.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 6:02 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
You write beautifully, and this was just what I needed to read this morning. Thank you.
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!
OldCow18 ( member #39670) posted at 6:25 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thank you, I really needed this today.
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
ascian ( member #40304) posted at 6:25 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thanks for the post. I found out just a couple days ago and am still pretty tossed about, but seeing this near the top of the JFO forum helps ground me...at least a bit.
Me - BH 41
Her - FWW 38
D-Day: 8/13
Reconciled
marion ( member #33625) posted at 10:46 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
The pinnacle of this education, for me, has been the knowledge that our worst fears can come to fruition at any moment, and we can get through it. This betrayal is most certainly on par with any other life tragedy that one may face. We’re terrified of betrayal on a whole, and when it hits it’s just as bad if not worse than we imagined. But then something remarkable happens – the world keeps turning. Kids make us laugh. Pets kiss our faces. We perform something artfully, or skillfully and we feel pride in our action. We live – and we have the opportunity to live well again.
Thanks so much Jrazz.....
this is so valuable to hear.....
very inspirational whatever situation you are in....
Marion
Abbondad ( member #37898) posted at 10:55 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
Thank you Jrazz. I have come a long way since my early questions, all manifestations of "Will my WW come back to me?"
I have since abandoned that question (at least 75%) and now indeed my question is "Am I going to be OK?"
With the indespensible help of SI, I know the answer to be "Yes."
Thanks to everyone.
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 11:01 PM on Tuesday, August 13th, 2013
I'm trying to have faith in what you have written. This is all still very new to me, my husband isn't giving me any reassurance at all, and I'm fairly sure I will die of heart break if he leaves me and the children.
But I'm trying to have faith.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
IslandGirl18 ( member #36781) posted at 1:19 AM on Wednesday, August 14th, 2013
Beautiful. Inspiring. Well-written. Thoughtful. Genuine.
Thank you so very much!
me: BS
him: WS
D Day: July 27, 2012
Day of first suspicion: 6/7/11
DD#2: November 2, 2012
Divorced
forgivingnow ( member #33549) posted at 7:19 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2013
Jrazz
I copied this in July and carry it in my purse to read for inspiration when I need it. Wanted to bump this for new members.
Me-BS 57
FWH-57
M 37yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yours
catatonic ( member #40758) posted at 6:33 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2013
Thank you,
This is why SI has been so helpful fir me. When you think you are all alone in your feelings. Someone a little further down the road puts you back on track
Thank you JRazz
pregnantandsad ( member #40141) posted at 7:53 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2013
You are wonderful, thank you!
M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD5 & DD 1 1/2
D-Day 7/2013 - Divorced!
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 2:03 AM on Sunday, November 3rd, 2013
I'm always happy to help. So many have come before me and lifted me up.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
painfulpast ( member #41038) posted at 2:55 AM on Sunday, November 3rd, 2013
I am so happy someone found this and moved it to the top, because I was able to see it and read it. Just wonderful!!! BRAVO Jrazz!!
DDay - 12/2010
Fully R'd - I love my husband
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 3:10 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
Thanks, painfulpast.
Found this pic today... made me smile and think of y'all.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 5:32 PM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
Thank you for sharing your wisdom, your experiences, and yourself. Good job!
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Jrazz (original poster member #31349) posted at 6:33 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
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