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Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 1:43 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Yes Sal in addition to the 20 yr anniversary, about two weeks later I found out he was sexting with at least 7 other women on my birthday. He sent me flowers that day for the 1st time ever with a card about how much he loved me. I guess we defined love differently.
Colorado I did like you - went back to running when I turned 40 and within a year did a half marathon (just a half but still). There are lots of ways to get your groove back that don't involve going out of the marriage.
Maybe Hallmark needs a card that says "happy 17th anniversary - watch your back".
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
myperfectlife (original poster member #39801) posted at 3:52 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
My 17th anniversary was such a joke. He spent the evening with her and my oldest son. Neither I nor my son knew at the time they were having an affair.
I didn't see him at all that day because we were separated.
It makes me sick to even think about it. How he could even sit beside her like that on our anniversary. I don't understand people at all.
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
ZoeF ( new member #40034) posted at 5:06 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Interesting. We've been married for almost 17, together for 20. His A started just before our 16th anniversary, last year, and ended almost a month ago.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 7:00 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Found out days before our 17th anniversary. OW was almost 40. My H has been in MLC since I had known him. He may finally be getting past that. I can only hope.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Mommato4 ( member #15906) posted at 7:15 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
My marriage seemed to be every 6 years. What I thought was the 1st A was at 6 years when he turned 30. Then 6 years later.
What it comes down to is he has poor boundaries with women in general.
BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/2008
scarredforever ( member #23875) posted at 7:18 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
Right around the 16th-17th Anniver. when he started, coincided with him being in his early forties, I think there is a correlation there somewhere.
"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."
Mark Twain
Me-BS 54
Him-WS 55
Together 35 years
6-5-06 Day of Reckoning
Familiarity breeds contempt.
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