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My X is nice too. He still calls me darling and honey, just can't help himself, old habits die hard. My X is very guilt ridden. His guilt has worked very well for me. I got a better D settlement, good CS and he still pays though legally it should have ended over a year ago. I am pretty sure when he decides to end it I would be able to guilt him into keep paying. Not saying I would do that but it is tempting. I am grateful for any $ gifts he wants to give. I say thank you and really mean it. My X does not expect anything from me in return, but I know it makes him feel better.

Whenever my DD's dad is nice, he ALWAYS wants something.

Sometimes he sends a few nice texts and then flat out asks for whatever he is wanting (usually more visitation time or money). Other times, he will try to be nice for days and then BAM, there it is, he wants something from me.

I don't think I can think of a time where he has been super out of his way friendly towards me and not asked for a favor of some sort. Or hit on me. Or both.

He usually is not RUDE to me, but I can tell the difference between his polite during a drop-off/pick-up, and his "fake nice" to get what he wants.

Ex used to hit on me..up until last year...when I put my foot down. I told him I would tell his boyfriend

His response, "Well, that is how I've always treated you!" My response was, "Treat me as you would one of your employees." He said, "but...but...you aren't one of my employees!!" After I threatened to video it and send it to B, he stopped.

I found out over the weekend that Ex and his SIL had a long talk about me...and I think that is where the guilt is coming from. She reminded him how difficult my life is because of his choices. Great, yeah...I'm headed to grad school...but it isn't because I wanted to. It is because I have to.

I'll take the help any way I can get it. I'm having it added as an addendum to our PSA so there is no way out.

I tell people I just look cute and innocent.