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fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 4:40 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 4:51 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
^^^love it. No thanks POS. you get LESS IC and less help at the house and he gets to go to Vegas and free pass on "business" email? He seriously underestimates what you are worth.
Don't make that mistake for yourself.
Sanity comes with knowing your own worth and standing for it. Best wishes ❤
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 5:03 AM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Maybe you can reply with a contract of your own? 
Here’s a couple of suggestions to start with:
1. You will build a time machine and return us to date and time that I determine.
2. You will have a Cranium-Rectum Inversion reversal procedure post haste.
Sorry he is being such a manipulative and entitled POS. That 'contract' is utter BS 
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
justabrokendream ( member #3075) posted at 3:55 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
What a douche.... Make a copy of the letter, wipe your ass with it, then give it back to him.
numbandnauseous (original poster member #34525) posted at 5:55 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Tonight I'm going to tell him that I can't be M to him anymore and that he needs to move out. Wish me luck!
BS (me) - 50
WH - 58, EA with HS GF x 2, now deceased
M: 15 years, T: 20, divorced
2 teenage children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 5:59 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
HurtsButImOK ( member #38865) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
sending luck and strength to you n&n.
((((huge hugs)))
Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 6:50 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
Yeah I would say you "thought about it" and then hand him his copy back with all lines crossed out and initialed (like a contract)write DENIED in red ink at the top and tell him to get the fuck out.
Sheesh. What an ass.
I wish you good luck tonight. Do what you want and don't give a flying crap about what he wants. Watch him start to squirm when you don't give in.
[This message edited by realitybites at 12:50 PM, August 30th (Friday)]
Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.
He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.
BeyondBreaking ( member #38020) posted at 7:06 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
You will refrain from giving me the third degree about cash spending, travel, email correspondence and any alleged misconduct.
Let me understand: You are allowed to have his passwords and sew his e-mails, but how ask him any questions about it? Ok.....
You will reduce your therapy to 2 sessions per week for September and October and to one session per week beginning in November.
Wait, wait, wait. He is dictating how much you are allowed to see your personal counselor? Why would this be any of his business???
I will be permitted to: (1) travel to ______ for 3 days in September to meet with (6 guys names) at ____'s home and (2) travel to Las Vegas in October to meet with (5 guys, including all the guys from the "cheating" Vegas trip).
I almost wet myself laughing at this one.
I think this one is what his contract is really all about. "Look, I will do this and this and this for you, but I want to go on these trips without you getting mad."
He cheated on a trip to vegas with those same 5 guys. What in his right mind makes him think you would be comfortable with him going to the same place, with the same guys ever again? Sounds like putting himself in the same situation.
Also, you can't ask him about the travel. How convenient.
*rolls eyes*
I don't think I would even respond.
Let's look at his part:
1. In order to rebuild trust, I will commit to a monthly polygraph test for the next 6 months. If these tests are positive, meaning "no deception," tests will be every 2 months for an additional 1 year. If "no deception" in these tests, testing will end at the end of that year (approximately the end of 2014).
What happens after that? He will be able to go right back to where he was before.
I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 11:08 PM on Friday, August 30th, 2013
numbandnauseous,
Please don't post the same post in multiple forums.
Everyone, please see this thread to continue to offer your support.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=506432
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
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