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ILINIA ( member #39836) posted at 10:52 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
(((Many hugs to you)))
You are doing the right thing, stay strong.
I have felt that you are somewhat of a twin to me as our profiles are so similar. You will get through this.
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 10:57 PM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
I am sorry that you are facing this again. Good for you for going NC
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 12:52 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
I'm so sorry oc...when I read, I want the M but I need to work some shit out...that says, I want you to wait because I'm not ready to be committed, but don't want you to be single cuz I might want you back....grrr Dammit second DD just sucks.
Buzzkill..hmmm
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 12:57 AM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
If there ever is a sign for a false R, it's the wayward saying they want to save it, and doing nothing in order to do so. BTDT, got the bloodstained tshirt.
I got that shirt!
Many hugs to to you (((oldcow18))) you are doing the right thing! Stay strong he's a coward!!!! 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
selkiescot ( member #23777) posted at 4:16 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
(((((((oldcow18)))))))
You will get through this.
The truth shall set you free or reveal the name of the OW!
ME 57
WH 64
DDAYs TOO MANY
daughter 27
You give me gifts! I don't want your gifts I want the truth. That's the greatest gift.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:46 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
(((((oldcow))))) Sending you strength, honey.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Ariabook ( member #39669) posted at 7:25 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
((Sending you lots of hugs))
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 11:38 PM on Saturday, September 7th, 2013
OldCow, thinking of you and sending hugs.
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
stunnedin12 ( member #38141) posted at 12:06 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
I am actually feeling some peace. I mean, total devastation yet again, but to have the truth FINALLY has been calming. I can work with the truth, I can't work with lies and gaslighting. I was literally going crazy
.
Thinking about you -
I totally get the devastation/truth/peace/calming thing. I'm just sorry you had the lies/gaslighting and devastation.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Lawyers involved.
openedupmyeyes ( member #27871) posted at 3:34 AM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
((((OC)))))
Thinking of you. Sending you strength, and peace. You can are strong.
Me:55 BS
Him:55 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:37
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.
myperfectlife ( member #39801) posted at 6:14 PM on Sunday, September 8th, 2013
OC I get the "truth" thing too.
I am where you've been for the past 3 months.
I am done with the words and waiting for the action. There's been some, but not enough.
I did file already so that has been my backup.
I keep reminding myself that I am not afraid to be divorced. I am not afraid of the life I would have without him.
I do NOT want to live in a marriage with someone who is not committed to me/the marriage 100%.
His honesty at this point (although a little late) is better than the continued lies and TT.
Now you have the power to make an informed decision.
And someone else said it as well...he may still want you as the backup plan. It's up to you whether or not you allow that.
(((hugs)))
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
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