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I am so sorry! I can't imagine the hurt but I think with a man if this character you know the real man.

You could have made life plans for you and your kids and his actions end up like those at the party. I think you dodged permanent pain and most importantly left yourself open to find an honest and good man.

I am just shocked that he would actually go the party that he knew you were going to be at, say he's not going, then goes AND then acts like you aren't there? Incredible.

Glad you blocked any future communication with him. That has got to be one of the lowest of the low.

Good riddens.

sorry, you had to go through that.

He had asked me in the morning if I was going; I told him I was not sure and that if I went I wanted to go with him as a couple. He was very set on not going because he 'hated' the town it was in and did not care about the woman whose birthday it was and blah, blah...

I think at the point he did this he was too drunk to really think it through. Not an excuse, but I have a feeling that's what happened.

It was the look in his eyes that really hurt; the look when somebody is caught and all of a sudden you just feel like a nuisance. With that look and his action with the other woman he made me feel like I was absolutely nothing. And then he had the audacity to walk over to some joined friends and tell them very loudly, so that my girlfriend, who stayed behind could hear it, that he was having a lot of friends at this party and that he was planning on partying all night. WTF?

Some people do not know a good thing when it stares them in the face.

Nope he sure doesn't. As I say, good riddens.

((((((( fruaeken))))))

The interesting thing about the second time on the infidelity roller coaster-you've already figured out what worked for you the first time. The healing happens faster.

He's an ass. You deserve better.

More hugs,

K

Just. WOW.

what a loser!

What. An. Asshole.

FTG!

I'm so sorry this happened fraeuken. It sounds like he was "posturing" at the party...so he could deflect the fact that he is an asshole. Typical wayward behavior. The squealing out of the parking lot? More immature behavior, and probably pretty angry at himself, but it is masked in a "so what" attitude. I'm sure he saw his things outside your door and thought, "Whoa. OK. I guess she isn't taking me back." then they change into "well, I didn't want her anyway!" Therefore the immature behavior. Deflecting.

Try to be thankful that you found out who he is early. Your gut was telling you something was off...just cocoon and take care of yourself

I am so sorry that happened to you. I might have ripped him a new one right there. Let everyone there know what a lying asshole his is.

You should have put Viagra-looking placebo's in his bottle and gave it back to him

Do not let the anger take over in you heart. Remember that everything has a begining and an end.

this is the end of another chapter in your life. Fill your heart with love and kindness from whatever you believe in.

He is disfuncional, not you. Don't become bitter and take his place in limbo.

clear you mind from any bad feelings before it becomes part of you. Accept the fact he is gone and thats all. Value yourself and fill your heart with awarness, live it and let it go.

Love, happiness, sadness, etc is a choice if we do not attach to them. Choose whatever you want to feel and work on it.

We all love you here and will care for you always.

My two cents

I am really tempted to flush his Viagra down the toilet..

TOTALLY! That's not any worse than me CLEANING under the lid of the toilet with my XWH's toothbrush!!!

Shellybeanz, great minds think alike. I did that too way back when I found XH's condoms in his overnight bag...

I am so sorry - what a crappy thing to have happen!!!!

Viagra - Yep - substituting tic-tacs would of been funny.

Toothbrush - I remember my mom brushing the dog's teeth with my father's toothbrush.

I thought I wasn't letting this get to me so much, but apparently I do.

I barely slept and when I fell asleep my disturbing dreams woke me up. I relieved yesterday over and over again. I feel like just wanting to crawl under a blanket and shut the world out. Tears making their way through my attempts not to cry. When I got up this morning, my anxiety set in like I haven't had it in a long time. Dry heaves, chills, sweating, heart racing.

Fortunately I have to teach this afternoon, 3 hours of not thinking just focusing on my English student.

I know I will pull out of this much faster than before. But the pain and somehow the shame of rejection is just as intense.

This will be a long day, can't wait to pull up to school this afternoon and see DD11 all excited to see me.

oh honey, I'm so sorry :(

Shellybeanz, great minds think alike. I did that too way back when I found XH's condoms in his overnight bag...

Yep...scrub scrub scrub!!!

Little did he know that Crest wasn't responsible for his pearly whites..... but they probably were tidy bowl fresh!!!

Toothbrush - I remember my mom brushing the dog's teeth with my father's toothbrush.

((BIGHUGZ)) Everything will be okay...

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 12:48 PM, September 16th (Monday)]

That really stinks Frau. What a mean man.

I may need that Viagra sometime in the next few years!

Bebba, nothing wrong with Viagra. I had more fun than ever in that department

Fraeuken,

I am so very sorry. That seems such a small thing to say, but that's really all there is.

You are a lovely, warm, intelligent, giving person. His perceived "rejection" of you is actually a gift. He is saving you from another long term relationship with a liar and a coward. You know that the issues are his and not a reflection on you. You also know that nothing you could have done or not done would have changed who he is at the fundamental level.

I know none of this eases the pain. I wish I could hug you in real life. And I'd love to give him a piece of my mind.

(((((((HUGS)))))))

What an ass! I think that sepsis ate up his brain!

T/J Meds down the toilet make me cringe. It gets in our water and fishes to babies drink it down eventually causing many health issues. It's a big problem. Last thing you want to hear in your pain, but I didn't realize so many other people didn't already know. End T/J

His jackass behavior has nothing to do with your deserving. And I applaud you for your excellent NC and self care. I am so sorry for the pain. There is a withdrawal reaction like a drug for touch. Massage is a good option.