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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 10:38 PM on Monday, September 30th, 2013
The X never had sex with the OW 
(which means he wasted a LOT of money on viagra 
) but in your case, I wouldn't take what the OW said as gospel--of course she's going to tell you the most hurtful things she can think of. I'd guess the sex was somewhere in between their descriptions, but as the others said, it's more about the titillation of illicit sex than the quality of their techniques.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Whalers11 ( member #27544) posted at 11:00 PM on Monday, September 30th, 2013
I think this is the one true detail I got... WSO said the sex with OW was amazing.
suposd2btheonly1 ( member #40753) posted at 11:12 PM on Monday, September 30th, 2013
He says that he didnt know if it was good or just different but he knows that he didnt like how she moved bc she doesnt move like me, that she made noise but nothing like me. He also said that she looked terrible naked but for him he liked the attention she gave him, that she made him feel special. He said he felt guilty the whole time, when I asked how that was even possible to get off while being so guilt ridden he said "You can still get off" WTF??? 
I know my H is great in bed, we have a wonderful sexual chemistry and I know that the first time we had sex he went all out and tried so hard to make me get mine before he got his, and he still did and does. I also know that he did the same thing with her bc he told me.
For him all he says was that she made him feel special when I wasnt giving him that. I called BS bc I was the one planning surprise date nights, filling his car up with gas and getting his morning usuals to make his work days easier EVERY EFFING WEEKEND when I got off work at midnight. I would rub his back, set his work clothes out for him, make sure he had dinners ready for when he got home so he didnt have to cook, leaving cards or special treats just for him in his lunches etc....so please enlighten me as to how that little 22yo girl made you feel more special than your wife? Im convinced it was the way they could just go about 'business' without the actual daily life burdens that we encounter as spouses with families.
Sometimes I wonder that if I had an affair just to show him how much it hurts how he would react, maybe then he will 'get it' but the sheer thought of putting another person in my place of pain makes me sick
Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head
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