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The sad clowns DD A happened during a fortnight in London for a professional development course.

A few weird things happened during that fortnight.

* I kept falling asleep on the couch. I didn't sleep in the bed the entire time.

* A neighbourhood cat started breaking in and stealing food/knocking things off the kitchen bench. I was crying with frustration about having to disinfect the damn benches every single day.

* I kept dreaming of a very large yellow snake in my front garden. I was showing people out of my home and pointing at it "mind the snake - yes, he is very very poisonous but you're safe as long as you give him a wide berth".

Everyone was terrified of this snake. I wasn't afraid at all.

I *knew* just as I knew this wasn't the first time. I told my sister what I suspected the night before he came home. She was shocked and told me I was crazy. 1 day later he proved her wrong.

For years I had a recurring dream that I would find a hidden room in my house. I would accidentally happen upon it. Sometimes it was furnished at sometimes it was empty.

It made me feel uneasy because it meant that I needed to clean it , paint it and use it. It also bothered me because it seemed like such a waste that it had been hidden and unused for such a long time.

I used to have this dream about once a month. I had always thought that it meant I was stressed that my house was not in good order.

After dday I never had that dream again. In fact I haven't had a really vivid dream since.

I very much believe in dreams relaying information to us.

In the years that WH and I dated prior to being engaged, I dreamt twice that I saw his bff and his bff's wife in the mall after not seeing them for a while, and I was engaged or married to someone that was not my WH and they asked to see my engagement ring that I absolutely loved (which was nothing like the ring I ended up picking out w WH).

Each time I felt happy, and then woke up and thought, but wait, then I wouldn't be with WH any longer. That also didn't make sense bc we saw his bff at that point at least once every week, so why would there be a long span that I wouldn't see him. Hmm.

I also have dreamt 3x that people close to me have been talking to someone who was quite close to me and already deceased, and each time, I found out later that the other person in each of the dreams passed away within the half hour that I dreamed they were talking to the already deceased person.

Not to mention the 15 lb weight loss before I found out, I was so stressed with him never being around. I lost even more immediately after I found out.

I am glad I am not alone.

I thought perhaps I was crazy.

I dreamed of OW and laughed it off and dismissed it thinking "H doesn't like blondes".

I dreamed her exactly as she is except I never saw here and didn't have a clue he was wandering except in my dreams.

I did the same thing. I guess it is our subconcious telling us what we really know but don't want to admit. :(

I have posted about this topic before and yes I have prophetic dreams to this day. I had a dream just before DD that xWH was cheating. I woke up and told him about it and that my fear was that I wouldn't walk away, that I would try to save our marriage. He said it would never happen. I gave myself away with telling him my dream and my fears.

I still have dreams about him to this day.

I don't remember having any prophetic dreams about the A, but my FWH had a doozie of a dream on D-Day night:

Two little girls were playing on a railroad track. A train was coming very fast; one little girl leaped to the side and rolled away from the track, but the other one did not move in time and was run over by the train. This dream haunted him for days, it was so vivid--and he usually doesn't dream (or, rather, remember his dreams).

I firmly believe that dreams and intuitions are important indicators of problems. It's not mystical, it's the bubbling up to the surface of the thousand little inconsistencies that we notice subconsciously but cannot otherwise link together. My gut has never, ever been wrong. Trusting it has been my problem.

From a W perspective, I agree. After I had my second son and was post partum, I would have dreams that I was having an affair. It was always with one particular person I had written out of my life years and years before. He was a wayward type, I ignored tons of red flags when I was with him because of other aspects that drew me to him. I would wake up at the time perplexed, here I was with a fabulous husband and a life I had wanted and created, why the dreams?

18 months later I had an affair with the exact type of guy I had been drawn to earlier in life. The type of guy I swore I had moved beyond. I still wish I had really thought about what those early dreams were trying to tell me.

My current life coach (sort of like a therapist beyond therapy) says that often after infidelity or divorce from that type of person she asks the person 'when did you FIRST see signs or have that gut feeling about him/her?' She relayed that unequivacobly the answer is NEVER 'oh, just a few weeks before I knew'. Most often people ignore signs because of other positive qualities or benefits.

That being said, I have seen stories on here of people who really had no idea so not everyone has that same 'intuition'. What I have learned the hard way is that our intuition is never wrong. Ever.

Yes I've had several. On DDay,

We were about 100 miles away from home. We got home and he made plans to meet his gym buddies to celebrate that he won a competition.

I felt a little sad he was going alone but I fully trusted him. I fell asleep and didnt even realize he was not home yet.

THE DREAM: it was all just pitch black and something hit my stomach like a kick. I sat straight up in bed and was shaking. Then my mind kept telling me go to where he said he was NOW. I called the place and all I got was the voicemail, it was closed!!!

It was 1 am. The voice in my ind kept repeating "go now!" I grabbed my purse and didnt even bother to change my pjs! I get there and the parking lot is empty, it was all pitch black. But I drove in and saw his car and another car next to his. There he was standing like 8 ft away from her talking.

I had several others, he left once saying he couldn't take the fighting anymore. That night I got the same stomach pain and I could see him and her having sex for hours. I saw other stuff that happened too I was crying in my dream. I woke up in real tears. I later found out it was all true.

I threw him out and he moved in with her. After about 6 weeks. I had another dream/vision??

As I opened my eyes around 6:30 am, I felt as if I was him at the moment and I was looking through his eyes. I could even see his long lashes as I blinked my eyes. I felt this huge sadness and misery and the thought " not another day like this God" I took my daughter to the bus stop and it was raining. I looked up and the rain is hitting my face and I felt like I was him standing in the rain looking up and he thought of wtf he was doing. There was a little bit of sunshine through the clouds ...

I could not help myself and I sent him a text around 7:15 am. I told him exactly what I felt and what I thought. He was getting in his car and was with a buddy of his. He said he froze and was trembling and showed his friend my text. His friend gasped in total shock. My H had just told his friend exactly what I said. He said he woke up that morning and just didnt want to get up and face his new life and what head doing. He said he walked to his car in the rain and didnt care he was getting soaked and he paused for a moment and looked up at the clouds and saw a bit of sunshine and thought of me.

Way more things happened like this that would freak anyone out. At one point he was super paranoid because he thought I could read his mind! Lol