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Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 12:58 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
All those symptoms you feel , I also feel. you explained them so well . my stbxww said some unbelievably cruel demeaning things to me before and after d day I cannot even type them because I will trigger but I do feel as you do as far as the analogy of the broken bone. I am so much better than 6 months ago but the pain is still there. For me I like to dive into it , instead of avoiding it , why? because f--k it the more I feel the pain the weaker it will become. You sound great and focused , That is good !
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
SpiderGrl ( member #40157) posted at 1:00 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
FWIW Phantom, he lied to you. His reactions to being near you and your family speak volumes. He was guilty and he is regretful. That's why he won't talk to you. He is supremely ashamed, as he should be. When the fantasy wears away and the new wears off this COW he will have major remorse. I just hope you are in a place of supreme happiness when it happens so you inadvertently get to rub his nose in it. 
BIG, HUGE hugs!
Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 1:07 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
He can't believe some if things he said. He cringes when I tell him.
When one is in an affair not only can they not see the forest through the trees, they can't even see the trees...
The reason I'm still here - the fact that I knew this wasn't the man I married, it was some broken version of him. That gives me hope.
PhantomLimb (original poster member #39668) posted at 3:18 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2013
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