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I am glad to read this and the responses because I thought maybe there was something wrong with me.

My self esteem took a bruising with STBX's infidelity and my sex drive was collateral damage. Now that other people are showing interest in me, it's still not there. I've been starting to think there's something really wrong with me because all I want is a hug.

Relieved to know it's normal and will pass.

I go through phases when I do and when I don't. I definitely miss physical intimacy, but I know that it's not worth trying to date right now when my heart isn't really in it.

I just hope that if I ever do find someone else, our sex life will be great. To say that my sex life with XWH was mediocre is being kind. I guess that's not totally fair-- there were times that were decent, but over time, it became more and more about him and less and less about me. I feel the way STBM does-- I was a vessel for his pleasure, not a human to experience an incredible bonding experience with.

Confused's post just about sums it up for me.

I didn't miss sex after my D -- it was actually better solo than with him. Selfish people, i.e. cheaters, make selfish lovers, and I didn't know any better since he was my first!

I've only dated one guy since, but the sex was amazing, and after we broke up, I missed sex a lot. About a month after the last time, though, I realized I wasn't missing it as much as before. Which is good, as I don't know how much longer I could have handled it if the desire hadn't gone away!