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Chickens! Not kidding, they are a heard of perpetual puppies!

My dog has been being neglected... Fed and watered... But since dday has spent a lot of time in the basement.

Not lame at all. Pets help everything.

The cat in the picture above, Eva, is why I am still alive today. That's not melodrama. Twice I seriously contemplated suicide, to the point of kneeling on the floor in the dark holding a syringe loaded with enough large animal euthanasia drug to kill an elephant. Twice she came and found me and distracted me out of it. She was the most gentle, loving cat I have ever seen. In her entire life she never growled once, never hissed once. Following D day she slept next to my head every night without fail. When i woke up with nightmares she would be there. She would break the silence between my wife and I with unbelievable miaows (you have to hear a burmese cat to believe it), which would make us both laugh and break the ice. She would jump all over each of us if we were arguing.

She lived 1 day short of her second birthday, the day after I told my counsellor I thought I was finally going to be ok. I think maybe Eva's job on this world was done.

I hope she is waiting for me somewhere, so I have the chance to tell her just how very grateful I am for everything she did for me in her too short life, how acutely and deeply I felt the pain of her passing, and how much I truly loved her. She was my "once in a lifetime" cat, and I will never forget her, or forget how incredible she was. We have new cats now, and I love them, but Eva was and always will be, my rescuer.

[This message edited by LonelyHusband at 3:22 AM, November 28th (Thursday)]

My dog helped me alot after my husband's affair. He's even commented that she helped keep us together. Yet, she passed on recently & he has been asking me if I would choose the dog over him & telling me I wouldn't miss him as much as I do her. It really irks me that he is not there for me when I need him emotionally. Now he is making comments that I shouldn't get another dog. I would like to know wtf his problem is?

Ah Olwen, black labs are the BEST!! During final part (unknown to me) of fWH's LTA I decided ,Sod it, don't care any more if H doesn't like dogs, my sister's lovely dog had pups and I was going to have one. For company if nothing else, H was way off my radar by then. I said I'd do all the walking, feeding, clearing up messes,6 o'clock in the morning walks whilst the world was asleep and freezing cold and I did - I think I asked him twice during that first year to mind her for a few hours.

He gradually warmed to her, said he didn't know a dog could be so nice. What he had never admitted to me until a few years ago was that he was frightened of dogs, having been attacked by some as a child. I don't think my lovely labbie has an aggressive bone in her. She's bottom of the pack, way under the cats, and just emanates love and happiness to anyone she meets, and any other dogs, cats, rabbits etc!

And so good during relate. Long walks, distraction, and giving off that feel-good factor all day everyday has been great for us. And H has not only lost his fear of dogs, but has turned into the biggest dog-bore I know