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deadroses ( new member #40710) posted at 5:35 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
My trigger. .... him. He is the rat faced liar 
that insulted our marriage. ..ugh.
WH....him
BS....me
two month affair with a supposed friend....more like a filthy whore
R.....it's going well (so far)
UKlady ( member #39058) posted at 12:30 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
The skin on a sausage!!! Yup! 
It was a chorizo sausage and you have to pull the skin off - if you do it carefully (and this was a fun challenge pre A) then it looks just like a condom. Now if I manage to pull it off it makes me want to puke.
I'm just waiting for the day when my H jokes about it again - tbh I don't think he'd dare!!
Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.
Shocked2believe ( member #41010) posted at 1:21 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
Christmas party coming up in two weeks (to which spouse's are once again not invited for the second year running) and where all the b/sh#t began!
Amazingly it was the first year that spouse's were not invited all the shenanigans ALL began. Goes to show?
Me:BS Married 15 years
Him: WH - EA/PA with now married OW
'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway and block the traffic"
TheThreeYearFool ( member #41218) posted at 3:07 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
This is still so new to me that everything feels like a trigger.
There's his car -- they had sex in the car. He was already cheating on me when we bought the dining room table -- what did she think of the table when she came over? They went to this restaurant, and that one. Did he spend the night before last Thanksgiving with her? Or the Friday after, while I was at work?
The trigger that really bothers me is a work acquaintance of mine that has absolutely nothing to do with anything. I just trigger on her because she looks a little like OW. Similar highlighted blonde hair in a similar hairstyle. She's also overweight and always wears very nice and expensive skirts or dresses to make the most of it. Just like OW.
And I compare myself to this image. I'm athletic (skinny now that my appetite's gone), dark haired, Hispanic, olive skinned -- basically I look nothing like her. I'm uncomfortable with the attention I attract in skirts so I rarely wear them.
So every time I see this very nice, totally innocent woman at work I just get so angry and hurt. What about that look was worth hurting me over?
Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?
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