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I had the same experience as brokendream, I am 53 and only sixty something men are looking for that and I am not interested in them. Men my age are all looking for younger.

Older women really are invisible to the majority of men their age. This is obvious on any OLD site.

[This message edited by shiloe at 3:13 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]

I vote go for it, Bufffalo. You won't know until you try.

Add me to the list of people with a positive Match experience. Out of the 6 guys I met, all were second and third date material. I was able to filter out the weirdos ahead of time.

I'm dating an awesome guy now that I met online. It can be a needle in a haystack of find someone you want to date exclusively, but there are good people out there just like you.

I met my fiance on Match just over four years ago and we are getting married next May.

I met some very interesting people using OLD, including my SO of 3.5 years, the incomparable GDM.

In my opinion, you might meet a few stinkers, but if you keep your investment minimal in early stages and go into it with the idea of getting to know someone better vs. finding a relationship, you should be fine.

I agree there are scumbags who use the service, but there are also genuine people trying to connect.

I met some fascinating folk on line. Have remained friendly with a few as well.

Cat

[This message edited by Catwoman at 6:54 AM, November 18th (Monday)]

I met my now husband on Chemistry.com close to 4 years ago... you will get a thumbs up for "OLD" from me...

I met my SO of 2.5+ years on Match. Overall I had a really good experience on it. (I am 47 BTW) I never understood the people who get SO worked up over the online dating experience. I think you just have to have the right frame of mind going in.

You have to assume that there is going to be a lot of rejection and you can't take it personally.

You will be contacted by a lot of weirdos. They might be obvious weirdos or ones that show their weirdness later on. Expect it. Don't freak out over it. Laugh at it. Sometimes that's the fun part!

You have, have, HAVE to do a lot of screening of anyone you meet. For me that meant emailing and talking to the person up front. I had to know their full name, where they worked, snoop on them via the internet, etc. If I couldn't get at least some sort of independent verification of them outside of OLD then I didn't meet them.

I had the mindset that it was 2-3 dates and NO MORE. Period! That way I was able to not care if the guy poofed. Truly - it made a huge difference in my whole perspective. If we had 2 dates and he started flaking on communication.... I was like "eh... he only had one more coming anyway."

For me personally I was also able to not get attached because I didn't sleep with them in the first 3 dates but YMMV.

My current SO made it so long because after 3 dates I stopped seeing him and moved on... but he kept in touch with me. Then I sort of put him back in the rotation after I had a last minute cancellation for a concert I had tickets to.... so for his second round of 3 dates - well, he grew on me enough that I decided he was a keeper.

Try it! It can be fun and there ARE some really great people out there. Just take your time and be choosy.

I believe Groupon has a special right now for a one month membership for $17.00. It may be worth checking it out.

Saw this post earlier...there is a site for singles 50+ called OurTime.com.

I gree with spirit, you got to be careful and be patient to find that right one.

I chat a while before i meet anyone, by the time I already have a feel of the person, I have been on OLD for months only chatted with three guys and only met one so far, we met twice for past month, I met him whenever I have time. He is a super nice person, tell me everything about his work, his son, etc. Actually i think it is a bit too much too soon.

He asked me to go to his Xmas party I have not agree yet. But we do plan a drive to the mountains to have a dinner for his BD, I like him so far.... But it won't hurt me if he poofs...

Keep us posted as to how it goes!! and let us know if you need any feedback setting up your profile. I enjoy hearing the stories from online dating.

I did online dating off and on for years. The best part was the convenience of meeting a bunch of people at once. I had limited free time for dating so I liked being able to read profiles and get to know people during the week before having weekend dates. In the end, I met my SO.

I never tried any of the paid sites, but of the free ones, I enjoyed OKC the best. pof and craigslist had too many players. But then again, even the free sites vary by location. If you have time, check them all out!

FWIW, great experience with OKCupid. Sure, you will have to wade through a few flakes, experience poofers, etc, but my current SO I met there is a great person, and we enjoy each others company very, very much... I forgot what a caring, kind, generous, HONEST women was like. It's simply amazing.

I was shocked at how much I enjoyed the experience, and how nice it was to be able to discover ladies who were on the same sheet of music as I was with regard to interests, philosophy of life, etc. Always emailed/talked on the phone extensively before meeting, and went from there...

Good luck to you, and hope you find the OLD experience rewarding!