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What kind of person sends pics of their spouse to another person?

I wish I could say that I don't think this is common. My H teaches young adults at an adult vocational school...and it is VERY common for these guys to send pics of their SOs in compromising or partially nude pictures...to anyone. They have not yet sent pics to my H but have had the pics up on their phone and tried to get him to look at them. I agree it is sick sick sick but it is also the world we live in today.

On dday, I found a pic of ME that my WH took and sent to someone on craigslist. Yes, I knew he took the pic. NO, I did NOT know it was sent to someone else. I thought,at the time, it was a pic for my husband.

Please stop assuming his wife is ok with this. Sorry, but really?? Just because her WH is a sleaze doesn't mean she is...or a great many BS's would be considered sleazy by association..right??

I can tell you when I found out he sent a pic of me to a stranger, I felt violated. It is one of the few things I can NOT get past...even 3 years later.

Yes..I let him take the pic...yes,I am a little freaky(with MY HUSBAND ONLY)...that does NOT mean I was ok with him sending a pic of me to anyone.

Either her husband sent it to your WH and this is something the two of them do..which,BTW, if you let your WH take pics of you, or if you have in the past, there's an excellent chance your WH has sent pics of you to this buddy.

Or, because you don't even recognize the number that sent the pic, maybe this is his wife,and SHE sent the pic.

But to jump to the conclusion that she is ok with her husband sending out pics of her without even really knowing this woman is unfair.

I would HATE to think of some poor BW coming across that pic that my husband sent of me..and having her assume I was just fine with it.

Confront your husband..or don't and start watching him again. Either he is involved in some VERY inappropriate behavior..and/or he is having an affair with this woman.

[This message edited by confused615 at 6:13 AM, November 25th (Monday)]

I am so sorry if it seems like I ignored the replies to my post. Life got busy and haven't had a chance to get back on and read through. There were some amazingly insightful replies. THere was one that said I sounded co-dependent. Yes, I believe I am.

I didn't start out that way, but over the years it has definitely happened. Its weird because I'm not meek and not a pushover, but at this point in my life (in my 50s), I just know I'm not going to start over - so I guess you start to accept what you wouldn't have accepted in your 20s.

I also believe this is the world we live in- that people take these photos and share them. I know better than to let my husband take photos like these, because I don't trust that he would be the only one to see them.

My husband has MANY flaws. I'm not blind to them at all, but I think I may have decided that I can live with any of them, except for actual cheating (emotional or physical). I'm not saying I should, its just that I have made a choice and sometimes our choices eat at us.

Is that crazy?

The WORST thing for you to do is to contact this *friend*.

If you aren't going to talk to your WH about what you find, then stop looking.