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My H is former military... and he says why go to a strip club and get teased when you have perfectly good 'sex' at home... your H is telling you things to make you feel as though what he is doing is the norm... when it is not!

I always asked him when he was away from us training why he didn't go with the other guys to these places. The answer? I could hit the gym instead and get in good shape.... I wouldn't want to spend that kind of money.... and why tease yourself with that? Most of the girls only want to hang around if you spend a ton of cash on them. They don't really want the guy. It's just a job to most of them, so they really don't care who gets hurt as long as they get paid.

Your H is not taking responsibility for his actions. You could be 110 lbs. and smokin hot and he would very likely still be doing these things... because it is not about you. He is broken and needs to get his act together.

I agree with the posters who say to lose weight quick just dump his ass!

Thank you all so much for your support on this one. He makes it feel as though because I agreed to go with him that I should have expected this behavior. The fact that he lied to me to go again behind my back is such a slap in the face. He started to act out this weekend and I used his NPD against him. I told him I would have my mother come stay o(shes on leave from work) and witness his crazy if he didnt stop. I mean he was shifting from calling me every name in the book and telling me he hates me to crying and begging for sex. The threat seems to have worked for now. He got orders to report to a new duty station in April and has asked to stay in our spare room until then. I told him if he behaves and signs the separation agreement, that he could. I hope he uses his time to spend with his kids but he seems determined to use it to manipulate me. I am taking off tomorrow to find an IC. I am falling apart inside and I have no time to release it without him or the kids seeinf me