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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
it has been awesome to not have to feel guilty for once to go for a run after work!!!!
Keep it up. I know this was a hard decision for you to make, but I think it's pretty clear that putting Piper into day care was a great choice all around. You can do things you need to do for yourself which will help you to be a better mom and keep you in control of your life!
Keep it up! 
Failure is success if we learn from it.
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 8:00 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
My therapist could tell a huge difference in me this week...I've worked out 4 times...twice with weights and 2 runs... and I feel great....melancholy... but good... about 80% better than last week! That's a start right!? I feel more like myself....even though I'm still sad about what's going on.
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
cissi ( member #21737) posted at 9:59 PM on Thursday, February 6th, 2014
Frankly, I would worry about you if you didn't feel bad and sad about this situation. Just shows you are a normal, good person who has a heart. But, having a heart and feeling sad is still no reason to surround yourself with the crap you had to put up with.
Perhaps someday you and your sister can agree to just be polite and cordial around each other but I don't think that time is now.
She11ybeanz (original poster member #27457) posted at 12:09 AM on Friday, February 7th, 2014
Perhaps someday you and your sister can agree to just be polite and cordial around each other but I don't think that time is now.
I agree. I don't think so either. Personally I think she needs professional help. Like therapy like me but more intense and often. It actually crossed my mind that she slashed her own tires just to make me look bad....which is scary that the thought even crossed my mind!!! 
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:06 AM on Friday, February 7th, 2014
Do you think setting a timeline would help you? Like, decide (but don't tell your family or anyone who would tell them, or possibly no one but your IC and maybe us), that you will wait six months, or a year, or two years, before making or accepting any effort to reconnect with your sister. Don't tell your family because it's not a matter of her waiting you out, it's a matter of you taking the time you need to learn what healthy feels like, what you want your boundaries to be, and how to enforce them. But a timeline can sometimes help, because it reinforces the idea that this doesn't have to be forever, but also let's you focus on where you are, instead of constantly reevaluating whether you're ready for the next step. If you tell yourself you'll reevaluate after six months or a year, it frees you to stop thinking about whether you need to reevaluate now. Does that idea make sense or resonate to you?
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
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