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(((hugs))) I'm so sorry. If he's so unhappy, why doesn't HE leave?

(((((MrsD)))) Oh, honey. I'm so sorry.

Are you safe?

Please, please, please don't be ashamed.

Trusting and loving someone is nothing to be ashamed of.

Neither is trying to make your marriage work.

Anger would be better than shame. He should be ashamed of being such a terrible person.

I don't care what you have or have not done - his actions are reprehensible.

If he wants it over, HE can leave. Don't you dare leave. If he continues to be aggressive and threatening, call the police, have him forcibly removed.

Shit just got real, get your bitch boots on.

You're not an idiot, you gave it your all. My guess? He's started another (or restarted) affair.

I am so sorry. Your WH was totally out-of-line.

{{{hugs}}}

It sounds like he is imploding. I am so sorry he is failing you so epically.

(((Mrs. Doubtfire)))

((MrsDoubtfire))

Sorry. I've not yet had chance to read any replies. I'm just so..... Numb I guess. I shall read them all an respond as soon as I can get my bearings.

He's already done they crying and the apologising but from here all I can see is the bullshit !

I need to work out what the hell just happened; why it happened and where I go next and the find lone is who will be coming forwards with me in my future!

I'm strong guys. Just a little beat is all.

(((((Mrs Doubtfire)))))

You're strong, but like the rest of us only human. Wishing you well, whichever route you take.

And please, please don't ever be ashamed. I would imagine it's HIS shame that's got you into this situation.

Peace and light to you.

Oh, MrsD.

This is all about him. IMO, there's something he needs to share with you, but he hasn't found the courage to do it yet. I hope he finds it quick.

And I hope you protect yourself.

You sure don't deserve this.

(((MrsDoubtfire)))

Omg. Where the hell did this person come from??? Could he be having some sort of breakdown??

You have always stuck out in my mind as one of the most positive people on here. And you've often given your H accolades for his progress.

I just don't get it. How could this be happening???

(((MrsD)))

(((Mrs. Doubtfire)))

OK - what an asshole. Sorry - but what an asshole.

Honey, grab a suitcase and fill it with his things. Put it next to the front door. Tell him if he does this again, the bag goes out, followed by him. Accept no less.

((((hugs))))

I'm sorry he's acting out.

((((hugs))))

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My WH has had a few of these moments since dday 1. They're explosive and scary. Take care of yourself. Don't leave. It's his issue. If anyone leaves it's him. I'm worried about you. Be safe. (((mrsdoubtfire)))

(((MrsDoubtfire)))

(((MD)))

Please, no shame on you. Take care of yourself now.

You got this. You are a beautiful woman with an incredible strength of character. Look at what you have overcome with a good goal of keeping your family together. There is nothing to be ashamed of in giving someone a gift, regardless of how he chooses to value it.

Has the progress of your H as described un your profile reversed or just insufficient?

Hi guys.

I still have no idea why FWH reacted like he did and I am still scared and scarred by it!

We talked about it and he apologised and I said "Well guess what! Apology is words which equal Jack shit! You have put me right back in a M where I no longer feel safe! We, if we are to stay together, need help to get through!"

He said; "We have all the tools at our disposal to put this M right and we don't need any more ouside help to tell us what we already know!"

He says he has felt like an 'add on' to the M for the last 6 months and feels like if he asks for my time all he hears is "Hang on a minute- I just need to text so and so" or "Give me a second- I just need to sort this out for DD" etc etc.

WTF?

So.... you not only threw your dollies out of the pram but also almost managed to throw the wife out too ....and all because you aren't getting the attention you deserve? Get the fuck out of here boy!!

(Sorry- swearing just seems so appropriate right now).

The reason wy he will never leave is because THIS is the dream house he built from scratch with his savings so, despite it being in joint names, an supposedly being built for ME... in his mind it will always be HIS more than mine and he will never leave here!

So, where we are at the moment?

He thinks we are working on resolving this issue.

I am 'pretending' as I really have nowhere to go (parents live abroad and I am too proud to go sleep on a friends couch).

I am pretending until I know what I want to do.

I am genuinely stuck between wanting to work through whatever shit just blew up in my face and walking!

I know he has put in so much work to change who he used to be but, boy, I saw the old him the other day and that has just brought back all the scary shit he was doing during his A that I had let go of!

Trust me- someone on here asked if he had reignited things with his AP? There's no way she would take him back now--- particularly as he got my nickname tattoo'd on his arm

I knew that was the one thing that meant they could not and would not ever get back together as seeing my nickname would make her want to

Anyway- I am still alive and still wearing my bitch boots.

I just need to work out what the hell I should do.

I hate this feeling of having one foot in the M and now one foot out!

One thing is for sure though... IF that old H returns this bitch isn't going to fall down a second time!

I am slowly lining up my little duckies until I know what to do next.

My subtle 180 is to stay vigilant and detached whilst watching his every move to see whether this was a temporary glitch or to see whether this girl needs to ruuuun Forrest ruuuuun!!

Thank you for all the support and I accept every virtual hug you sent as I need them all right now.

Staying strong thanks to you.

ETA Typos

[This message edited by MrsDoubtfire at 5:19 AM, February 9th (Sunday)]