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ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 5:08 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
I always thought I was handling things correctly based on my stbx's *issues*, also.....until the day that I realized that HE was the one who was *handling* me!
Ditto. Trying to figure out how to "fix" things just kept me under his spell and allowed him to manipulate me longer. I didn't realize how much he was manipulating me until I stepped back from the relationship.
I don't think you realize how much you are letting him get away with. And I think if you stepped back, you would call yourself crazy for how much you are babying him and allowing him to disrespect you. I'm guessing you're scared too push too hard for fear of losing him, but honey, you don't want a man that can treat you like this.
I'm the survivor of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse as well, but I didn't use and abuse the man I married then use my trauma as an excuse. F that noise.
I know you came for advice about the OW, but you need to realize that it doesn't matter what she is doing. You shouldn't know about it. Your H shouldn't know about it. You block her every way possible and tell her to get lost. Then you focus on you and your marriage again and figure out if you are really accepting of this crap. I'm guessing he's not as fragile as you think he is. He needs to man up or ship out.
Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 6:47 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
I don't think you are grasping the concept of NO CONTACT. It means absolutely zero..
He's still with her and feeding you lies. Start investigating him... Or Kick him out for treating you like that. He cheated he should be talking to no other women period...
Oh I am so angry for you... Stalk her back and tell her to leave your husband alone or your coming after her..
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 6:55 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
Hun we all have kids... Something is fishy here.. He's had 2 affairs and you are just enabling him to have more.. And who cares if he has stress.. He chose to cheat and don't be surprised if he met up with them and fuck em too. Wow.. Sorry but this is unbelievable. 
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 9:04 AM on Friday, February 21st, 2014
If ow is in another country, I would say it would be simple to go NC. She can only contact by email, text, social media, so simply hit block, deactivate, ..and its over. He's keeping.it going which.is wjhy she's stalking you and the one that really puts the cherry on the cupcake...she's pissed because she thinks your having sex with YOUR HUSBAND because she considers him HER BOYFRIEND.
BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????
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