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betrayedpregnant ( member #43304) posted at 6:21 AM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014
hi, i just read your post and i feel really bad for you. We have similar stories. Praying 4 u too
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 1:55 PM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014
He says it was about feeling needed and wanted that it just felt good to feel needed.
Woah. You had a high risk pregnancy and were hospitalized and he says SHE needed him? That is absolute crap. He had two kids and you who needed him more than anything but he decided she needed him more. What a douche.
It will never make sense to me why people throw away good things in favor of crap. I doubt you'll make sense of why he did this either as the reason he gave you didn't even make sense.
NeverAgain2013 ( member #38121) posted at 2:26 PM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014
I'm so very sorry you're in such chaos right now. My gosh, all you wanted to be was the best mom and best wife-to-be that you could be, and you surely don't deserve this. Not at all.
As far as your future husband, he's lying through his teeth. He knows DAMNED well what her last name is. He freakin' WORKED with her. I know everyone's last night at my job and there are over 200 people who work there!!! Does he honestly believe that you'd fall for that tripe?
If he doesn't start getting honest with you, then how can you possibly begin the work of reconciliation if that's the path you want to take?
I'd give him exactly 24 hours to pull his head out of his ass and start getting REAL or kick his butt right out the door.
Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.
Sadmumma ( member #42192) posted at 2:41 PM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014
Twins mom, I feel your pain.. I really do.
I was found evidence of an EA at 25 weeks... I was pretty certain there was a PA as well but I just ignored it. I did what I had to do to get me through the pregnancy and birth.p (mine was high risk)
When the baby was 7 weeks old I couldn't ignore it any longer. I found my proof and acted upon it.
I know you feel like shite. I really do. And trust me when I say it's not you.. It's him... It really is.
Work out what you want. If you want to get through the birth of thus child, then sit tight for the next 15 or so weeks...it's ok. You can make your decision later....
If you want to continue in your M work out what you will and will not accept as suitable behaviour. Be strong on this, if he is not willing to provide what you want then be prepared to act.
Do what you need to do for you, for right now. Nourish yourself and your unborn baby. Take care of your twins. Big decisions needn't be made right away. Try to get your ducks in a tie.. Just in case.
Good luck x
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:56 PM on Saturday, May 10th, 2014
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
shiloe ( member #1224) posted at 2:48 AM on Sunday, May 11th, 2014
They started talking in January and there were 1600 text messages between them.
He is lying to you, he knows her whole name.
F*@k him, he is protecting her. 
But remember, good love is hard to find . . -Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
BS - 58 Dday 03/2011
Cheater -58 Married 26 yrs
DD - 23 DD -21 DS-19
A#1 2000 with married ho-worker/neighbor ow#1
A#2 2007-? OW#2 LTA- new MCOW D-2/17
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