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He told me last week that he has/had lost the will to live

if an accident happened, he wouldn't fight it. He would welcome death's embrace

I can relate to this.

I am not replaceable to him. But he is to me.

This is true for WH and I. I used to say WH "learned to love me" and I was the one in the relationship that loved more.

"You are not replaceable. No one can ever take your place. You are special. You are unique. And you're mine."

The above statement is something WH has said to me, but like you said...some BS might not be able to believe that after their partners have an A. It sort of proves it...

Just my 2 cents.

im a BS.

this thread really resonated with me. i understand your husband completely.

my wife didnt know how to deal with my anger. she would apologize, or go silent, or get angry. finally she asked me. i was at a loss and then blurted out something -> "why dont you just hug me or hold me when i get mad". it works.

with apathy, its more difficult. all you can do is try to SHOW and TELL him that he is the one, the only one, and do it forever. over and over and over.

i know thats not so much use to you. im sorry its so rough on him and you.

What Jrazz said. I was so depressed I couldn't think straight. After 6 months of Zoloft I was in a much better place.

Sometimes, life's situations put you in a place that you cannot get out of without help. Time for help, QS. It saved my life.

Sometimes, life's situations put you in a place that you cannot get out of without help. Time for help, QS.

I think he has finally realized this. He agreed to putting in a call to our pastor/counselor. Huge, huuuuuge step for him. I'm so proud of him.

That is wonderful Aubrie.

Knight and I read your thread yesterday and have been thinking of how to reply.

Knight wanted QS to know that he really didn't want to go to counseling either. Eventually he just knew that he had to. He knew it would take work to save our M and he wasn't going to have it be said that he didn't do his part. (I wasn't saying anything like that. I was expressing concern for him and us though.)

At the g2g knight was able to speak with so many betrayed menz. It was good for him. He's not a big talker about this kind of stuff but when I would actually shut up for long enough he really did talk a little.

He has said now he feels he could reach out to those guys by PM if he needed support and did feel comfortable putting it out there.

He agreed to putting in a call to our pastor/counselor. Huge, huuuuuge step for him.

So glad to hear this, Aubrie.

Aubrie, I'm thrilled to see your update. Continued strength and patience to you both.

He agreed to putting in a call to our pastor/counselor. Huge, huuuuuge step for him. I'm so proud of him

Awesome.

aubrie,

i have been following this and thinking about you and QS. I am so glad to hear that the video resonated, and that he is willing to reach outside of his comfort zone for help. slow and steady. take care. sending good energy. oai

Good step for QS, and a good step for both of you. It took me a lot to be convinced to go to counseling. I hope it is as helpful for him as it was for me.

Thanks everyone. He's scared, but desperate enough to try something other than continue to hide. That theory has proved to be devastating for him.

Y'all, thanks for the support and kindness. QS doesn't post, but he lurks here and there. And while he doesn't say it, I know your words carry him a long way in the right direction.

Aubrie, I'm so happy to hear that QS is working through his fear to reach out for help.

He agreed to putting in a call to our pastor/counselor. Huge, huuuuuge step for him. I'm so proud of him

Great to hear that!

Sending you both lots of love and prayers. <3