Hey folks- thanks for checking in on me.
Lawyer went well. It was our first meeting and I really really liked her and got a very confident, competent vibe from her.
I decided not to file the exclusive use order because our courts are so backed up here...but you can bet I texted him and said
"my lawyer and I discussed your aggressive and abusive behaviour at the house. It is within my right to have the court ban you from the home- but I chose to speak to you reasonably about it first. Know that this option is a available to me and I will use it if you don't treat me and the boy with respect."
Boy- has his behaviour changed! One rule of bullies is their behaviour only work if you don't tell on them!
So the meeting was a lot of questions and info gathering and such. We talked custody, parenting schedules, the house...
It was pretty overwhelming I'll admit.
I think I've come to accept that even if I get the house, I can not afford to keep it. This is heartbreaking as it's my dream house on a lake...but even with what I imagine he'll be paying me in child support and spousal support, I would be financially tapped and stressed. Plus if one thing went wrong, it would sink me. My friends keep telling me to hang on to it and suffer a few lean/stressful years because they are confident within 5 years would have a new man living there.
I don't know.
I'm sad to lose it, but also half liking the idea of my own cozy little house that I handle with confidence all on my own.
I'll miss the lake, but we still have loads of family and friends who live on the lake we can visit...
Lots to think about.
