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Caretaker1 ( member #42777) posted at 12:47 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

Klove. what you wrote hit home. You worded things very well. It pains me that they are giving up on us and children...for what ?

You admitted you are working on things about you. He throws the baby out with the bath water. This is like my ex.....they focus on all the negative, but fights can be stopped when two people get to the root causes of their unhappiness.

I pray for karma. How are the children in all of this? I for one was applauding your text. It was pure, raw emotion. Try NC or limit as much as you have children and can't avoid it.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 6:47 PM, April 1st (Tuesday)]

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 Klove (original poster member #42096) posted at 1:06 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

Ok- here are the postcards

1) home wrecker: a person who knowingly and purposely pursues one who is already in a relationship to try and steal for themselves. No bitch- you 're right. This isn't you at all.

2) oh? So you're a home wrecker? Here- let me show you this list of people that still respect you. (Blannnnnk)

And my fave

3) I'm sorry I've been calling you a whore and a slut. Being the home wrecker you are, I thought you already knew!

Ha ha. Wouldn't I just LOVE to text her one of those "saw this and thought of you...you're fucking pathetic. Love, klove

I won't- you're right. She knows- hence the "I don't want to be called a home wrecker comment." I don't want her to know that I even ever think about her pathetic, ugly, whorish, immoral self.

I fucking hate her.

"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

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jemimapd ( member #37895) posted at 1:40 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

I am struggling with NC. My ex is busy minimizing and pulling this one:

I'm depressed. I'm not happy about this situation, either. I'm in emotional pain and I'm not happy. I'm not dating - I'm not in the mood for that, I'm too emotionally drained.

(Then a speech minimizing what he did and subtly saying I over-reacted)

I love you, Jemima. I always will. I will always be there for you if you need me.....

This is a man who up until a week ago had his profile on match.com

Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

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thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 4:24 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014

Klove, do not send the OW a text. Look, this will be a brief 2x4, but...

They're heads are up their asses right now. Nothing, and I do mean *nothing* you say will get through. The *only* thing you are accomplishing is making it look like you are obsessed and can't let go...of either of them.

Of course that's probably where you are right now to some degree, but you don't need them knowing that. Them snickering behind your back over your texts and emails. I gaurantee you they will do that. They are petty and nasty and your pain means nothing - just something for them to bond over.

In my situation I had access to the emails/IM's so I got to read all of the lovely shared thoughts on the stuff is sent. Spare yourself the regret, KL. That is the one thing I still best myself up for.

Divorced! 4/1/16

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