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SadInNC ( member #42170) posted at 6:33 PM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
I didn't react to her at all - not even smile back. I'm not going to give ANY effort to her feelings.
rachelc I am standing and applauding you right now!
She is a F&*^%$# B*&$#!!!!
BS/Me WH/Him
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 6:40 PM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
I thought you were a big proponent of intimate conversations?
I am. But if my husband saw OM you can bet that would be the focus. And we wouldn't be discussing how much I didn't trust him, or anything of that nature.
IWantDoOver ( member #39440) posted at 6:55 PM on Sunday, April 6th, 2014
Just read your other post.
Yesterday hubby and I spoke of the mental gymnastics one has to do to stay in a marriage where there has been betrayal. It's very unfair. It breeds resentment.
Maybe this is just more mental gymnastics, however...
It sounds like your H's primary need in M at this moment is Trust, and he defines Trust as not having his telephone, Facebook and LinkedIn "checked" by you; and your primary need ATM is Safety, and you define Safety as living and working in a place that doesn't involve OW (x2) sightings.
Neither of you are having your needs met by the other. Ouch.
(((Rachelc)))
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