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PRNDL ( member #41927) posted at 5:23 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
It all depends. In my situation, d-day was a year and 2 months ago. I cant use the 8th month mark because I moved out at 8 months.
I was still with her for 7 mobths after d-day 1. She kept cheeting. 2 more d-days came and went. The pain never went away. I did not know what to do. I had not found this site at the time. I did not know what the 180D was or NC. I begged her and pleaded. Those 7 months of false R and limbo were pure hell. There was no progress. All I did was suffer because she had no intentions on stopping the A. I guess it all depends on what you WS does.
And there was the issue. My happiness was determined by the choices my STBWW made. So.......
I moved out 5 months ago, found this site, 180D, filed for D, and started my recovery.
I still suffer everyday. I still cry and mourn. However, at least now, everyday is getting better and I have full control of my destiny. Not her, not her OM, and not any other guy she slet with.
Good luck
BH: 36 (me)
WS: 31 / OM: 31
Son: 12
Affair: 1.5 year long 2012
ONS with stranger Feb 2013
D-day #1 March 2013
D-day #2 April 2013
D-day #3 Sept 2013
Affair continued.
Limbo 7 months
Moved out - 180D - NC
Divorced
A over. Defogged. Trying R
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:36 PM on Sunday, April 27th, 2014
Still asking questions every week, still feeling tremendously sad, getting especially antsy because the 1st antiv of the start of the PA was coming up - all in all, at 8 months, I was in rough shape.
My w was doing all she could to heal herself - answering questions without complaint, taking in confrontations in MC (and in IC, I assume) and working to change herself, owning what she did.
Way different from your H.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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