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Jennifer99 ( member #39551) posted at 4:22 PM on Wednesday, May 14th, 2014
Should pin this in the D forum/ auto-bump it always.
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, May 15th, 2014
Founded & captain an 8 ball team
Looking to buy another house (never thought I'd be able to do that!!!)
Stepped way, way, way outside my comfort zone
Have made so many wonderful new friends
Deepened bonds with old friends
Dropped friends that were dragging me down
Trying to go back to school for the ultimate career change
Become even more hopeful, optimistic
And ... the biggie (or most fun at the moment 
) enjoying the dance of getting sexy crush to ask me out
Hey, it's been 3 years on that damn bus. I think my stop is coming up! 
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 1:50 AM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
I'm 3 1/2 years out.
I am more confident in my own abilities both at work and at home.
I have a closer, grown-up relationship with my three kids. They are full-on grown-ups now and I'm so proud of them all. I did a great job with them, as it turns out, never mind all the doubts along the way. I love them and I like them too.
I just about never dwell on what happened to me - the infidelity, the lying, the abandonment, the divorce. Boy, that took a lonnnnggggg time. 
I can talk about the past (pre-infidelity) without all the sadness or anger overwhelming me. It's just the past.
I've been downsizing and it's been liberating. I thought it would be sadder, but it's not. The marital home was sold really quickly and I was the one left clearing out the house. Being in no shape to sort through stuff, I just moved a lot of it with me. Now I'm going through everything and wondering why on earth I've been hauling it around with me for 3 1/2 years!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 4:40 AM on Friday, May 16th, 2014
oh holy cow I'm 6 years out.
I had a long thoughtful post in mind but really its simple now.
I continue to grow and change because I like to. 6 years later... my life, nearly ever aspect of it including the ways I grow, has nothing to do with the D. And that is the most important way that I've grown.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
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