This Topic is Archived
Heal&Deal ( member #30910) posted at 2:52 AM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
You did it. You made it through.
The thing about grief is that it is not a linear process. It comes in waves, tugging you back into the sea of suckitude. Each wave is an opportunity to process emotion and heal a little more. Still, it hurts like hell.
Hope you are doing better today.
sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 9:23 PM on Tuesday, May 20th, 2014
I forgot to mention as part of all this wedding fun I was volunteered to travel from TN to WI to pick up my very elderly grandparents. I've done 2500 miles this week so I'm kind of strung out.
Anyhow, I'm looking at Facebook and I see some nasty comments directed towards STBX. I don't see her posts or comments but I can read between the lines. Apparently she offered her congratulations to the happy couple (she is still friends with some cousins I guess?)
Ma was particularly nasty. Sure enough I get the text from STBX. "I was being sincere. I didn't mean anything. It was stupid to post. I know I hurt your family. Poor poor me" kind of shit. I thought to myself "I'm done protecting her feelings". I simply replied that it was thoughtful to offer congrats but perhaps it's time for you to disengage as well. I know NC and crickets and all that. She's still in the fog and that's probably my fault because I've been exceedingly civil. I had to be to get some cash and to get her to take the house so I can leave. I also told ma to let it go but I think she needed to take one shot for good measure.
Anyhow, I'm doing better. Still a little shaky but I can attribute some of that to fatigue and shot nerves. Hey, I love my grandparents to death but you try to drive through Milwaukee traffic while an 88 year old gums down an apple in a car that's 90 degrees and your nerves would be shot too!
Heading back thursday then packing up and moving to the Gulf of Mexico early next week. I'll let the sun and the gentle waves heal whatever ails me
Thanks everyone.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
forwardfromhere ( new member #42358) posted at 2:11 AM on Wednesday, May 21st, 2014
The Gulf is truly miraculous. All is healed by saltwater: sweat, tears or the sea. You'll find ample opportunities for the first and last in that list here. Cheers to your new life!
This Topic is Archived
