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Thank you, heme, Deena, and sadmumma,

I did break down and asked my mother to be there with me. I never like telling my family about my personal issues in my marriage (anymore, anyways- after effect of the affairs. I keep ppl at arms length now), but this was getting bad and I didn't want to chance going in to labor and being alone and scared. I'm glad I reached out.

I do have a VERY supportive family, but I have really been sad that things have been rocky with my H. I WANT him there with me! We made this baby together. He's been so loving and supportive throughout our pregnancy. We've talked about how he's gonna comfort me thru the pain of labor, etc... I can't imagine I'll be ok if he isn't there for us.

But you all are right! If he doesn't stop stressing us (baby & I) out, I CAN'T have him around me during delivery. It could jeopardize our health and/or well-being.

Thank you for all your support everyone! I don't think I could be as strong without your encouragement.

I may be able to offer advice as Ive been through the delivery.

I gave birth to our twins a little over a year after my partners affair. The pregnancy was difficult emotionally and physically I was a mess. I always thought oh my god what have I done bringing these babies into a family that felt broken I even had thoughts about the silliest little things like OMG hes going to see my jayjay in the light of day. Putting weight on with the pregnancy also played on my mind.

Then came the delivery day. My partner, mum and sister were in the room to support me and my father, step mum and 10 yr old son were in the waiting room. My every whim was attended to. The day was beautiful and any troubles or doubts I had did not once enter my mind. Just absolute bliss and thanks to the midwife and epidural I was on cloud nine throughout the whole birth. I hope that eases your mind. I think that in the end the emotions of the birth outweighs anything else.

Goodluck sweety all the best woosah and massages.

Thank you Michonne,

I'm sorry you had to go thru such a vulnerable time while dealing with your partner's affair. I had to deal with that in my last pregnancy 10 yrs ago.

This time around it's not as bad as I'm 4 yrs out from the last DDay (#4). My fWH and I are doing better now that he seems to have "pulled his head outta his @$$" and the stress that was causing his frustration, he's now controlling and deciding to focus on positive, more important things such as our baby's birth!