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Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
What about using them, when getting a lap dance.
Do you guys buy that???????????????
It's complete nonsense.
seethelight (original poster member #43513) posted at 7:04 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
taking it one step further, he put the condom on prior to the lap dance with the intent to ejaculate. is it any less adultery for the lack of penetration?
5454:
I agree. It is also cheating.
“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit
seethelight (original poster member #43513) posted at 7:06 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Next time ask him if he's seen the message at base of every condom, sort of like a fortune cookie. He'll say no,,then you hit him,with " I guess you never had to unroll,one that far, huh?"
I will try that. 
“If two people truly have feelings for one another then they don’t have an affair. They get a divorce and they sort out their feelings. You are accountable for the people you hold hostage in a marriage when your mind and heart refuse to fully commit
islesguy ( member #38090) posted at 7:40 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Sorry, but I have never heard of anyone doing this.
Me: WH
My BS has given me every opportunity to prove myself to her and I have failed again and again. I lied to her for well over 20 years and did nothing to help her. I made promises to her again and again that I would step up and still have not.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 7:54 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Had lap dances......back when I was REALLY young too! Never came close to needing a condom to keep a mess under
control.
The fact you need to be erect to effectively put one on blows that theory.
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SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
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NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
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BrokenButTrying ( member #42111) posted at 8:01 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Over in the UK it's known as a 'posh wank'. I've known of a few men who live with their girlfriends do it so they don't make a mess on the sofa/bed. One of my friends caught her boyfriend doing it. So it does happen for legitimate reasons.
I call BS in your circumstances though STL.
Madhatters - We have R'd.
Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. We can do this.
PenitentMan ( member #43174) posted at 8:09 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Sigh. This is embarrassing to admit, but I did once because I wanted to fantasize I was actually doing the deed with someone and forget that it was my hand. To play devil's advocate, I can also see it being done to contain the mess if you were using some inanimate object, like a blow up doll. Also it could just be something different to try akin to, say, using your non-dominant hand (a.k.a. "the stranger"). I'm just saying. I believe the post in question was about during a drive home from the airport. Either that was a lie, which it probably was, or that person has a serious addiction to masturbation. Given that there are people that whip it out in libraries and restaurants and other places that you and I would never dream of touching ourselves in, it's not implausible to think that someone with that serious of a masturbation problem might want to rub one out on a long drive. Probably was a lie, but stranger things have happened.
My .02
[This message edited by SelfishHusband at 2:11 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]
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Her: BW (34)
DDay 1: March 2013 (EA/PA that *I* rugswept)
DDay 2: April 2014 (PA with double betrayal. OW was wife's friend)
Married: Since 2001
william ( member #41986) posted at 8:15 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
i was in the marines. we talked about everything. i thought id heard every odd sexual thing in the world. we had a guy who used to use a banana cut in half with a rubber band on it to masturbate, as an example. the more odd ... the more "cool points" one could win.
using a condom ... never heard of it.
me - bh
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
In reality, if you are questioning your husband doing this, then you already know it is a lie.
You didn't use them before and all of a sudden he has them... it's lie.
Now some people use socks but some use condoms. If he hasn't done it before... it's a lie.
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
7yrsflushed ( member #32258) posted at 8:24 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Condoms to masturbate...complete bullshit. That's what towels, tissues, etc. are for.
As for the lapdance. That's bullshit too. If he put a condom on to have a lapdance he had sex. The stripper might be completely nude but the guy is generally fully or partially clothed. If he doesn't have clothes on then something more than a dance is happening. If he put a condom on around strippers then something sexual happened.
[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 2:25 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)]
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Gr8Lady ( member #36307) posted at 9:23 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Got the same justification.justbecause WH says it doesn't make it true,
Don't believe it for a nano second. Just an excuse
BS: Me (70yo)FWH: HIM (72 yo)) serial infidelities over past 35 years
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2013
friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over a
year a year. Now his health is declining,
among the lack of communication.
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 9:25 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
I didn't even do that when I was a teenager, and my dick went into some weird places when it came to masturbating.
LDR at 16 y/o was a difficult time.
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:26 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Just... Really? no.
Love the humor in this thread though
Apparently I need to spend some money on some condoms, rubber bands, and bananas next time I'm at the super market. Wonder what the checkout person is going to think.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 9:26 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
StillGoing ( member #28571) posted at 9:32 PM on Tuesday, June 24th, 2014
Apparently I need to spend some money on some condoms, rubber bands, and bananas next time I'm at the super market. Wonder what the checkout person is going to think.
Holy shit. I am gonna do that next week sometime.
doggiediva ( member #33806) posted at 12:58 AM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014
No way unless he masturbates and his wad shoots across the room...In that case he still has the loaded messy condom to deal with, worse than a spent & dead water balloon 
Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite
63 years young..
Sal1995 ( member #39099) posted at 1:03 AM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014
I'm sure it's a small consolation to you, but you can at least take the condoms as a sign that he showed some responsibility and concern for you during the affair. Very little, I know. But some at least. From what I've gathered, most of us (including me) weren't that fortunate.
pjkmkjm23 ( member #35778) posted at 4:15 AM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014
I think it's safely confirmed by the responses in this thread that it's all a lie....but just in case more men responding helps remove any lingering doubts...
lol....like all teenage boys I did some pretty crazy things and lots of experimenting when it came to masturbating (lol....all moms must be freaked out thinking about what they're sons will try when the hormones are raging!! 
)! Only ONCE did I ever try using a condom. That's all it took for me to realize how stupid and ineffective they were, and how they spoil the 'fun'. I don't believe for a second any guy regularly uses condoms to masturbate! I also can't figure out the logistics of wearing a condom for a lap dance.
If this question was put to Mythbusters, I think the result would be myth "BUSTED"
MakingMyFuture ( member #43530) posted at 8:00 AM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014
*woman here*
Just wanted to say, I don't know why Hollywood pays script writers for material...all they need to do is visit this site!
When people show you who they really are, believe them - Maya Angelou
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DD-13, DS-11
DDay 1 = 1/13, DDay2 = 7/14 (False R), D 4/15
Jomarion ( member #43659) posted at 12:38 PM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2014
Wow, this post has really made me laugh. I will be on the lookout now for men buying bananas and rubber bands in the supermarket.
me:BGF, 54, American immigrant. one son. me and my ex get along great, the most amicable split imaginable!
him:WBF,43, Polish immigrant
together since 2006,
DDay:October28,2009,after his 3 teen kids push him to cheat with OW.
5 betrayed me
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