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I found him texting her again on his iPad after he received a text from an unknown number on his cell phone so he thought it was her. I left a text for him with text he sent her!! He got angry because I was checking up on him and put a password code on his iPad!! I text him from work and said I have had it do not text me or call me until he gets ready to get help!! He tells me he calls mommy and tells her all about the situation. I told him this was between the two of us not him and his momma. I asked if he told her the truth and again he used me as his reason for his infidelity and scared I was going to kick him out. She told him to what he needed to do!! I started screaming and yelling at him calling a liar and needed help!!! His family is non stop with divorces, laying with everything that comes along, the drama family of the century then he accused me of causing confusion in his family!! I don't even talk with ppl, I stay out the garbage! I feel some strength now!! He is not remorseful and still lying!!!

My WH has not breath a word about AP now and it's been almost 3 months since D-day. I have done my best with the 180. Some days I get through ok and others is just like D-day all over again. Some comments he's said lately has hurt deeply. He went out today and bought him a bunch of new clothes which I have tried in the past try to encourage him to get some new things but all of a sudden he's interested in his looks and clothes. Modeling his new clothes telling me how good he looks!! Then tells me I need to get my hair done! I looked at him and said I look beautiful!! I just don't trust him with all of sudden importance in his looks and finding fault with me. I still believe he's in contact with AP or some other person. Not a good day!

I want to thank everyone on here who have helped me along the way since July and have gotten encouragement. I did the pros and cons list and found out not enough pros to continue this marriage. He still won't talk to me about the AP and we sit in silence. I did start IC because he said he wasn't going to counseling or anything else so leave him alone so I did. The last anger rage of throwing things and breaking stuff did it for me. My IC told me to get out ASAP that the man is toxic and abusive and I had to get out because he has abused me too much. I am looking for a place and leave quietly when he's not home. Several on here told me in the beginning he was toxic, to kick him out and needed to take care of myself!! I will be out by the end of this week.

Hi, StealReeling, I think you are making a wise decision.

It does not sound as though your WH has stopped the A or has any intention of working to save the marriage.

I suggest you have someone with you when you make your get-away. Just in case he shows up, he might get angry and abusive.

Please keep us posted!