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You are not alone (as you can see from the others who have posted here). I got it from my FWW. Have had it for about 5 years now. I have frequent outbreaks she maybe has one per year. There is a lot of emotional baggage that comes with this. Just know you are still the same person. It may affect your body; but, it doesn't affect YOU.

I have it too. HSV2

I was proactive about my health after my exH had his A. Got tested and was clean.

I had my first horrible (it was painful) breakout 5 months after I had been dating my now ex SO. We had the std talk and he said he was tested and clean. After I called him up freaked out he said he will get tested. After a bit, told me his bloodwork tested positive for the antibodies. I believed him. It was a lie. When I caught him cheating on a website for people with std's, he had been registered on it 2 years before I ever met him for hsv2. He then backtracked and said he knew he had something but wasn't sure. Ummm thanks for not saying a word. So his bloodwork test was a lie. I figured it out when I had to badger him to go to the doctor for anything.

I feel so stupid for being so naive and trusting of another without medical proof. I didn't think people could even be this way, especially him. He still to this day hasn't been std tested for anything. After we split, I went and got tested for everything again.

So I've had it for 5 years. Under stress I have gotten a rash on one butt cheek and some swelling/irritation on my right side of my V where the sores originally were. It's few and far between. I take my medicine only then. Eating healthier and cutting out sugar helps me. I hate it because now I have to have that talk with someone if I want to be intimate ever again.

I have frequent outbreaks she maybe has one per year

You might look into the supplement Lysine. It is an essential amino acid that we can only get from food or supplements. And many people say it keeps both herpes virus in check, both 1 and 2.

This amino is also one of the first nutrients the body loses under stressful conditions, which is probably why stress can bring on outbreaks of cold sores and other symptoms.

If a person becomes deficient in lysine, that could cause worse symptoms.

It is cheap enough also to buy.

I am numb, in shock and mixed emotions from one moment to the next. I am not married. So, there is a part of me that is definitely concerned about future relationships. I expressed in the past to people that I would like to experience a healthy marriage in my life. My first marriage was not healthy at all. Braved and healed from separating and divorce at a young age and figured I had time and opportunity to experience a healthy relationship. Today, I am not as optimistic. If I were married and found this out, maybe things would be different. Who knows?!?!? One thing I do know is that I need and want peace of mind.

Thanks again everyone for sharing and the encouragement!!!!!!!!!!!!

threeofus- so sorry about your diagnosis, but welcome to the club

I was diagnosed with HSV2 a year ago June, and had been with only my boyfriend of 3 years. It was around the time I suspected he was being unfaithful. I had a bad outbreak in June and had 6 more around the time of my period each month. They were bad and there's NO WAY I was infected prior to my long term relationship- there was no ignoring the symptoms. He denied having it and barely reacted when I broke the news of my diagnosis. Suspicious behavior if you ask me...Anyway I take one acyclovir a day for preventative and L-Lysine supplement. No outbreaks since February.

Emotionally, I at first felt so dirty and that I was physically forever flawed. I was mad and felt betrayed and beat myself up for having it (dumb). I found an HSV support forum and that helped me feel not so alone and flawed. I'm ok now and barely think of it.

Hugs!!

Has anyone made their WS tell the APs about the Herpes diagnosis?

What if the AP doesn't know?

In my case, my WH had so many APs, it would be impossible to tell which one it came from, so it's possible he would have infected others.

@ Sunshine I can't weigh in on that because I am not married. I would like to know though.