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I hope you get what you need. You really never know.

When I called the OM, he said they were never at a bar my wife said they were at. In fact he said he never heard of that bar.

So what was I supposed to think and what do I believe, she was in that bar with a different guy?? My wife says the OM lied.

I called the OM again, and he once again told me if I called him again he would call the cops. So I told him I would meet him at his favorite bar. Except every time I went there to look for him, he was never there.

So, the OM just called. Oh it was so funny. I did get what I needed. I didn't get any information about what happened. I knew I wouldn't. I wanted to hear HOW he didn't tell me things. The little pr*ck was scared. He asked if my wife gave me his phone number, I laughed and said, "No, of course not.". He then asked how I got it and I chuckled and said "I have my ways."

At the end of the conversation I asked about his call at 5:30 and that I called right back and he didn't answer and all he said, "ummmm....yeah"

What I got is his nature, I know his soul. And I know that he fears me.

If you really want answers, tell him he has nothing to fear unless he lies.

Craig,

The answers will come in counseling, and will come from my wife. He's not a continuing part of the problem anymore.

If you really do get all the answers during MC, let me know.

Craig,

Nobody ever knows all the answers. Not even the WS really. They see the truth through the filters of their life experience. The answers are really like a coin. Even the person holding it doesn't really see all sides of it. All anyone really wants is enough of the answers so they can see the value of that coin, even if it's negative.

Nobody ever knows all the answers. Not even the WS really. They see the truth through the filters of their life experience.

I believe that when it comes to the emotional questions and answers.

I cannot believe that the WS does not know the answers to factual type questions.

I went to talk to him to learn what i could.

From him, my WW, and her bf, I learned that she

chased and seduced him. I think she was trying to trade up.

I told him that one bullet to his head and I would be a very happy guy.......

And he told me that she wasn't worth it.

And sadly he was right.

Later when she fell for another guy, I immediately divorced her.

I've been debating on calling the OM for a while now. He texted me apologizing and I wrote an array of responses ranging from anger to dismissal but never sent them.