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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:12 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Oh, honey. I'm so sorry. (((((tired girl)))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Crushed15Feb13 ( member #38846) posted at 2:12 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Me: BH, 56
Her: WW, 56 5+ yr LTA
Married 34 yrs, 2 DS
DDay #1: 15Feb13 - OBS phone call
DDay #2: 27Jan14 - TT, length of affair 1.5 yrs longer than admitted.
Trying to understand
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 2:28 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Oh, tg, I am so sorry. I don't know what to say other than that. You and hl are in my prayers.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 2:31 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 2:32 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
So sorry to hear this tg :( Sending you positive thoughts!!
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 2:38 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Sending thoughts and prayers.
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 4:24 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
I'm so sorry to read this. (((((Tired girl)))))
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
tired girl (original poster member #28053) posted at 4:54 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
No rachelc, to answer your question. I was blind sided when we were at a work party of his. I spent the evening getting the whole picture by accident. By the time we left I was trying to process what had just happened.
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 11:57 AM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
(((Tired girl))))
There is far more to R a M after adultery than stopping the A......I'm so saddened to read this post.
So sorry you have to "piece together" again.....a process we all know too well, and one that CAN tempt us back into old familiar but known destructive cycles.
I pray for you both.
Peace be with you.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 6:00 AM, August 18th (Monday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
tangledknot ( member #43927) posted at 12:00 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
You have been so helpful to me in the short time I have been here. I am so sorry for your heartbreak. :(
(((Tired Girl)))
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 12:29 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Very sorry to se this thread this morning. Sending you strength and courage TG.
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
Sadjacey ( member #41655) posted at 12:34 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Me: BS 61
WH: 61
Married 40 years
Together more than 40
Porn use known since 2005
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute,
Disclosure: TT for months. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 2.20 2013 phone, txt to same prostitute found
20WrongsVs1 ( member #39000) posted at 12:38 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
((TG))
Sorry to hear, that sux. I hope you were able to get some sleep.
fWW: 42
BH: 52
DDay: April 21, 2013
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
Former motto: "Fake it till ya make it." Now: "You can't win if you don't play."
brokensmile322 ( member #35758) posted at 12:57 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
Tired girl,
So sorry to read this post. One of the hardest things is trying to put 2 and 2 together and as you do, the feeling and the heart racing… 
We all support you. Hugs and strength to you!
Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...
When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl
"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."
heforgotme ( member #38391) posted at 2:13 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
(((tg)))
Remember all the advice we give to newbies and try to follow it. Especially the drink water and sleep one. The yuck will still be there when you wake up (unfortunately).
If I wasn't hearing this from your own mouth I wouldn't believe it.....
D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry
tired girl (original poster member #28053) posted at 2:25 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
The very basic details of what happened because right now it is hard for me to think about are that HL has been targeting a specific female that he works with to tease and harass so that she laughs at his jokes. This was his MO previously, only there was a lot of sexual innuendo to go along with it. This female also knew some very recent intimate business dealings that we have done and that completely blind sided me. I had not even told my best friends that info, and he shared it with her very freely. This to me crosses my boundaries that I have set up for my side of the marriage. Things I said I would not tolerate again from him. He has skated a little to close to the line again.
To be sitting at a party and be having all the females be telling you how your H loves to make this particular female laugh is sickening.
ETA: What kind of clinched it for me was when I asked him on the way home before I said anything to him, I asked if he thought she was pretty. He has weird taste in women. He said yes. That was when I knew for sure why it was happening.
[This message edited by tired girl at 8:30 AM, August 18th (Monday)]
Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 2:53 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
I am just stunned. I'm so very, very sorry to read this. 
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 3:15 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
holy fuck. I'm in shock. Soooooo disappointed in HL. so mad for you. I'm at a loss for words - all I have are hugs.
(((TG)))
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....
ItsaClimb ( member #37107) posted at 3:17 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
{{TG}} so, so sorry you are going through this!
BS 52
Together 35 yrs, M 31 years
2 daughters 30yo(married with 2 children) & 25yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later
seenow ( member #40720) posted at 3:23 PM on Monday, August 18th, 2014
My heart races with yours. My tears are for us all. Who put these broken people in our path? To what purpose?
I am so sorry to read this. So so so sorry.
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