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TheGuy123 ( member #59235) posted at 4:55 AM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
An emotionally healthy person who has made bad choices would want to repent with full disclosure, and own the consequences they are diserved.
A broken person will continue to hide and tell half truths to get by with the least amount a consequences, only to make the same unhealthy choices again and again and again.
Once both spouses just stop caring...anything can happen and usually does.
Lefty ( new member #54060) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
There is a forum for all of us that found out years after the affair happened. It is under "I can Relate" and it is called, For those who found our years later. There is a lot of good info there. Here is the link.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=349697
Hopeful30 ( member #44618) posted at 4:47 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
Did you pay your rent with checks? Can you go back in your records and see how many checks were written after the grace period? When you moved there did he tell both of you sex for removal of late fee?
You know that story is BS.
I would tend to believe the AP over her, as she was able to do all of that and look you in the eyes while doing it.
BS: Me
In reconciliation.
I edit for spelling and clarity
"Do or do not, there is no try." - Yoda
Tigersrule77 ( member #47339) posted at 8:45 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
Just the fact that she agreed to sex if rent was late should be a huge red flag. No one should ever agree to that. She should have refused to rent from the a-hole and then told you why. And did you know rent was being paid late? Or did she do this on purpose to give herself an excuse for some strange?
Not trying to be crude, but this situation is ridiculous. This woman does not respect your marriage or you. This isn't an issue about her past, this is an issued about the present. Don't ignore your concerns and questions and don't let her off the hook. She's just trying to deflect so she doesn't have to answer your questions or deal with her issues.
william ( member #41986) posted at 9:34 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
This is going to end in disaster if you don't take a more active role in leading.
She either had sex with him for monetary favors or had sex with him because she wanted too or a combination.
In any of the above scenarios does her judgment sound reliable? You need to decide what you want to help and she can either do it or refuse in which case you can decide to accept that or file. But just sitting there passive isnt working, won't work, and will never work.
[This message edited by william at 3:40 PM, October 20th (Friday)]
me - bh
her - lara01
from 09/11 - 05/13
2 ONS, 10 sexting partners, 1 LT EA/PA
??/06/13 DD/1 - admits to LT EA, begin false R.
01/13/14 DD/2 - LTA was PA.
01/18/14 DD/3 - sexting 5 guys.
01/19/14 DD/4 - 2 ONS with different guys
twisted ( member #8873) posted at 10:14 PM on Friday, October 20th, 2017
I feel sometimes she isn’t telling me the whole truth yet.
Yeah think? I don't think she telling you any of the truth. I really don't think this is fixable, so I'll keep it short, move on.
"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?
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