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i haven't read all gonnabegr8 so might be repeating the same messages.

From my BH - he told me he knew what sort of person i was before and if i sorted myself out who i would be again and he felt i was lost - and that's right as someone said you get lost under the stress of whatever is going on for you and disconnect from your partner and its just a slippery slope from there.

how he treated me after DDay and to this day has made me go from loving him (before As) to loving him and having a huge amount of respect for him and how he handled himself and me during a very bleak time - that profound respect i now have for him has broken through some barriers i had in terms of not giving myself fully to him (even though i didn't even realise that til after) and is what would stop me doing anything again (other stuff as well like decent personal boundaries).....

it does feel slightly hypocritical doesn't it - is that what you are meaning? i shouldn't have done all of that to get to this place....but there you go, i'm a slow learner....

This is an awesome thread. Thank you for posting!

I don't have a good excuse...I was the one who was totally fucked up.

My wife is beautiful, sexual, extremely intelligent, just about the perfect wife and I still cheated off and on with the same AP for 6 years. I was the luckiest guy on the planet and didn't know it.

My AP was seen as a model, trophy wife, PTA mom who taught Sunday school. It was almost like the two of us lead different lives. Nobody would ever see either of us as cheaters.

My cheating and dysfunction had absolutely nothing to do with my wife...my affair was all on me and I take 100% responsibility. I blew up my marriage and nearly lost everything.