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Hephaestus2 ( member #60769) posted at 10:57 AM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2019
What is the difference between a full blown codependent and someone who has "codependent tendencies"? How do you tell which one is which?
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 5:27 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2019
(((mindfullness55)))
I'm sorry for the suffering you are currently going through. They are really dark times and it's not helpful when your WS is not forthcoming, truthful or remorseful.
Why not have her take a polygraph? Why not make this a requirement for R.
I agree with OIN that you are not seeing your WS for who she is. It takes time to see this though. I would suggest detaching and focusing on getting yourself strong and then evaluate the M again.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
northeasternarea ( member #43214) posted at 6:01 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2019
I keep telling myself I’m too weak and too this and too much a wuss.
Change your self talk. You can't make another person do anything.
The only person you can change is yourself.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:47 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2019
Mindfullness55 - how are you?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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