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You know what, to hell with it. I'll go ahead and bury him anyway. Thanks guys!

Way to go! Burn his world down or he will keep this up! Show him there are sever consequences for his actions if he continues to f&^k with you.....

You're welcome.

The thing is he shot himself in the head. Helped destroy your marriage (with your wife's blessing) as you knew it then publicized it on Facebook?

The thing is it's his own emails, plus I'd bet there are a lot of phone calls using a work phone, etc. nothing slanderous about showing his administration what he spends his work time on.

Just tell him it's your way of saying thanks.

Do not warn him or your wife just do it. No talk just an action.

BOOM !!!!!!

I'd bet you'll be surprised at how much that'll help you get it off your chest.

Not to mention doing the community a service by getting that low class trash out of the school system.

You don't know what else he's been up to.

I'd copy the whole board so they can't hide it.

Destroy him, Joe. You'll be making a lot of people feel better. My cheating husband got fired from job after job after job, for as long as we were together. I could not wrap my head around that (I've been working for 30+ years and I've never been fired). He may have been conducting affairs on work time. Which qualifies as stealing from his employers. Which would explain why he kept getting fired. If my husband ever got fired because his AP's BH outed my husband, I wish that BH had told me too. Definitely.

ETA: OM might retaliate by getting your wife fired, though. That's something to think about, because you could end up having to financially support her cheating ass as a result. Just sayin'.

[This message edited by ashesofkali at 8:22 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]

I'd copy the whole board so they can't hide it

Exactly my plan

Does he have information about your wife that could harm her professionally?

Actions have consequences..... time for him to start facing his. 😂😂😂

He continues contacting your wife.

No mercy. Zero tolerance. Enact the plan. Destroy his career and his personal life. You’re not spreading rumours nor lies. You are letting everyone know what he is doing and you have the evidence.

I blew up my wife’s AP. Outed him to his wife and parents/siblings. Then let his employer know he was using their time to conduct an affair. Then made sure he resigned as a member of a Church board. They didn’t want an adulterer on their committee - I mean, he’s broken one of the 10 commandments. Life is sweet when you serve revenge. As an adult, you should face consequences for trying to destroy a family.

Here's my one concern, and someone please convince me I'm wrong, because I'm ready to do this. This has been going on 8.5 months already, off and on. Telling his employer and blowing his world up is my last shot against him. This guy is a freaking PSYCHO, he's proven it over and over again. Holding this over his head is the last bit of leverage I have over him. Using it now, whether he loses his job or not, things can turn south really quickly, especially if he has nothing else to lose. If it were just me and my wife in the house, I wouldn't be so hesitant, but I have 2 kids at home that I worry about their safety, especially when I'm gone because I work nights.

Right now he’s just persistent and fishing to rekindle the affair. What in his past leads you to believe he’s capable of harming your kids?

This isnt your last weapon. If you out him, and nothing happens you can send a legal letter to stop contact with your family. If he ignores that, you see the police for support.

But if you truly fear for your kids safety, then maybe let go of the vengeance and let karma do her job.

Thanks Sassylee, that's good enough for me. Thank you!

Sassylee, I guess I didn't really answer your question. He's done nothing to make me think he would hurt my kids, but he made some earlier vague threats to my wife and I. I think he is all bark, but he is also a severe alcoholic (boy she really picked a great one didn't she?), and I believe he is capable of anything when he's been drinking. More worried about anything my kids could witness, like him showing up when I 'm at work one night.

[This message edited by joecardinals at 11:16 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]

You're closer to the situation than anyone here.

I get your concerns. You're the one that has to make this call.

Keep your evidence handy irregardless. These types don't seem to ever go away.

Good luck

THanks for you support guys. I'm going to give it a day or two to think about it. I also want everyone to know, I didn't go this route out of vengeance, I just thought his new girlfriend should know because she has that right. Gotta admit though, vengeance with the SOB does feel pretty though.

I don't see a thing wrong with vengeance/consequences as long as it's thought out, well planned and executed.

If people know what's going to come at them when they cross a line a lot don't bother.

Life becomes easier that way. Less issues you have to deal with.

[This message edited by Marz at 11:34 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]

I totally support you telling his gf after he reached out to your wife again - it’s really not much different than telling the OBS. But when his reply was so asshole-ish - even I was thinking “Blow up this guy’s world!” I think going after his job is the vengeance part. And I get it. Really - I do. But I would also hate to encourage you to do something that had consequences for YOU.

I think sitting and reflecting for a day or two is a good plan. Maybe as a compromise, reply to him with a well thought letter you’d send the school board should he ever contact her again. Even better, have your wife send it it. “AP, do not contact me ever again, for any reason. If you do, this is the letter I’ve prepared to send to your employer.” It might have more teeth coming from your wife.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 11:52 PM, August 17th (Saturday)]

Well I did it. I wrote out a letter to the school board, and sent it to him. He replied back with "I'm blocking your craziness, you need help". I went ahead and forwarded everything I wrote to the school board. I then sent him a Cease and Desist Order. Any further contact will result in me going to the police and filing a restraining order.

I truly appreciate the advice I received on this board.

[This message edited by joecardinals at 3:27 AM, August 18th (Sunday)]

Good luck, Joe. Please let us know how it turns out.