His whole attitude towards keeping me as wife so I can play house like always while he does whatever- he really thought that would be great, for both of us.
Exactly, Maudlin - after I found voluminous evidence of my husbands many, many, many instances of cheating - he fell right back into treating me like the wife appliance. There wasn't even a weak attempt to show remorse. He thought we'd get right back to what we'd been doing.
I'm thankful for that - if he'd been apologetic and humble and conciliatory, I totally would have caved and set myself up for more reveals.
Even now that he's been kicked out for two months - when we've interacted his attitude is that I need to get back in line so we can resume our former set up - hell to the no!!!
I don't miss that life at all. All the time he was disinterested and neglecting me I thought it was that he prioritized other things ahead of me, which also hurt a lot, but wasn't a divorce-able offense. So, in a weird way this is a gift - bc I would've stayed a miserable wife appliance for the rest of my days otherwise.
And a man with daughters - how does he justify treating their mother this way and modeling this behavior? They choose to believe it's all without consequences.
