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Do you think that he will actually walk the walk?

I don’t know. I thought he was going to last time he was in rehab. I do know that before he entered rehab as a sex addict a week ago, he seemed genuinely remorseful - though the last week he was in a whiny “you’re never going to believe me” phase.

His affair this time (as with 3 of the 4 APs) was with a married woman. Her husband found out (about a week before I did) and fired a gun at her. (No, my BS did not warn me that our daughter and I might be at risk - but he also didn’t seem concerned about the covid he was potentially exposing us to.)

Anyhow, the AP’s soon to be XBH did text my WH something threatening at one point and engaged in other disturbing behavior. I ended up talking to the cop on the case when my WH entered rehab to ask if she thought I’d be safe living alone. So if my pain and the other husband’s threats aren’t enough for my WH to reach his bottom - nothing is.

On the other hand, last night when I couldn’t sleep (cause why sleep when you can have mind movies going) I started to wonder about his honesty. Yes, he gave me access to his emails and social media; yes, he told me about the first 3 affairs when I never would have found out about them after all this time - but I started to wonder, Was he honest in the details? He would have no reason not to be after ripping my heart out, but I’ll never know. I only know the names of 2 of them, but I could call them. On the other hand, to what end? And do I want to speak to them? And how do I know they would tell me the truth?

[This message edited by BlackRaven at 10:57 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]

His affair this time (as with 3 of the 4 APs) was with a married woman. Her husband found out (about a week before I did) and fired a gun at her. (No, my BS did not warn me that our daughter and I might be at risk - but he also didn’t seem concerned about the covid he was potentially exposing us to.)

Anyhow, the AP’s soon to be XBH did text my WH something threatening at one point and engaged in other disturbing behavior. I ended up talking to the cop on the case when my WH entered rehab to ask if she thought I’d be safe living alone. So if my pain and the other husband’s threats aren’t enough for my WH to reach his bottom - nothing is.

On the other hand, last night when I couldn’t sleep (cause why sleep when you can have mind movies going) I started to wonder about his honesty.

Read that again,your own words, listen he's already shown you he's capable of ALL that, would you even date him if you knew that about him when you first met ? what would you tell a friend ? you have given him plenty of chances, again he's not only a serial cheater, he's also an addict, he's shown you he has no trouble exposing you and your family to dangerous situations and potentially life threatening STDs and Covid19, so he's been clearly playing "russian roulette" with your health and your family, do you really want to give a serial cheater and addict yet another chance to put you and your family at risk ?.

If you found out the owner of a childcare or music school business was a convicted serial child molester/sexual predator now claiming to have gone through treatment and being "remorseful" and who's now offering the community a "grand opening" discount for children in the neighborhood would you even entertain the idea to have your daughter enrolled there ?, please RUN ! you could do so much better, he's set that bar pretty low, protect yourself and your family.

[This message edited by Buster123 at 7:30 PM, August 25th (Tuesday)]