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This0is0Fine ( member #72277) posted at 10:19 PM on Monday, July 20th, 2020
I seem to be giving this advice more and more.
You don't have to be reasonable. You can be selfish. Just accept it. If you STBXW says, "but you had sex with me, but this but that."
Just say back, "You're right, I'm not being reasonable. I don't have to be reasonable. I had sex with you because I wanted it and needed it then. I'm getting divorced from you because I want it and need it now. Your problems aren't my problems anymore. Goodbye."
Love is not a measure of capacity for pain you are willing to endure for your partner.
Jorge ( member #61424) posted at 7:01 AM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2020
I’ve reall gone and screwed up
I just had sex with my wife it was purely physical
Now it will make it harder for Me to
Leave as she will bring up the fact that I screwed her
So there must be something still there.
Means nothing at all. Don't manipulate your own self.
NEWPERSON ( member #71436) posted at 1:13 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2020
I too had something similar during lockdown, we are human and we slip up -so it changes nothing and you can tell her that when she asks that it was physical and familiarity has a lot to do with why people slip up and that is why you are leaving to avoid further slips up.
NEWPERSON ( member #71436) posted at 1:14 PM on Tuesday, July 21st, 2020
In my case it happened in April and June I still left
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